I'm also a mad crazy american 🦀

Family need to act like family, or else they can take a hike.

One time I tried to confront my mum about everything she's done to me (I don't want to get into detail) and she flipped the blame onto me, and I just took it.

@vegeta that's what abusers do, bro

i think its also important to note that if your mother ever tries to say "you cant leave your family because they're you're family" you should think of the saying "blood is thicker than the water of the womb"

Sometimes i think i don't even love her anymore.

it's never their fault, or else they would have to not like themselves

My grandpa was like this.

None of us were that broken up when he died.

Granpa did nothing wrong

@vegeta you're innocent, obviously. at 13, and in a wheelchair, you can't take care of yourself. She's responsible - don't forget that

anyone else have a narcissistic*abuser?

Spot the red flags

@dogl my father, but parents were divorced

I feel horrible thinking that she's abusive, she's allowed me to live here.

@vegeta allow?

ok its good to know im not the only one in this chat with a narc

@vegeta she's obligated, not you

My mom isn't the best person. Inhereted her dad's naracssim and aggression.

@vegeta dude, don't let her manipulate your feelings

@Emma same here !

But she's my mum

@vegeta she has to act like one first

@vegeta you can't be an abuser and a mother at the same time, if you ask me

She looked after me since I was a baby

@vegeta she has to, or else she has to give you away

She's the kind of person who can do no wrong, and has to have something to complain about with every person she meets. Including family.

@vegeta you don't owe her, she made the choices that led to you

@Emma my mum is similar

@vegeta she has to earn your love, dude

^^^

Usually takes something trivial and blows it up into a huge deal.

The closest thing to a mother I've ever had was my bestfriend

If she can't think of anything to do that with, she'll just make something up and convince herself it's real.

mountains out of molehills

@vegeta find it wherever you can

And then will complain about it, yell at you for it. And boast about your problems to strangers, right infront of you

@vegeta your mother doesn't own your thoughts or feelings

while we're talking about this topic i feel bad because im laughing at a vid

She has given me all the attention and love my mother hasn't genuinely given me

and @vegeta its good that you've found someone that can give you that maternal feeling