I feel horrible thinking that she's abusive, she's allowed me to live here.

@vegeta allow?

ok its good to know im not the only one in this chat with a narc

@vegeta she's obligated, not you

My mom isn't the best person. Inhereted her dad's naracssim and aggression.

@vegeta dude, don't let her manipulate your feelings

@Emma same here !

But she's my mum

@vegeta she has to act like one first

@vegeta you can't be an abuser and a mother at the same time, if you ask me

She looked after me since I was a baby

@vegeta she has to, or else she has to give you away

She's the kind of person who can do no wrong, and has to have something to complain about with every person she meets. Including family.

@vegeta you don't owe her, she made the choices that led to you

@Emma my mum is similar

@vegeta she has to earn your love, dude

^^^

Usually takes something trivial and blows it up into a huge deal.

The closest thing to a mother I've ever had was my bestfriend

If she can't think of anything to do that with, she'll just make something up and convince herself it's real.

mountains out of molehills

@vegeta find it wherever you can

And then will complain about it, yell at you for it. And boast about your problems to strangers, right infront of you

@vegeta your mother doesn't own your thoughts or feelings

while we're talking about this topic i feel bad because im laughing at a vid

She has given me all the attention and love my mother hasn't genuinely given me

and @vegeta its good that you've found someone that can give you that maternal feeling

@vegeta make the best of it until you can get away - make that a goal, and of course always leave that door open for your mother

But I can't get away

I can't look after myself

@vegeta do your parents still live together?

Yeah

My dad is alright

@vegeta make it a goal, whatever it takes work towards it

Kinda clingy and childish, but I know he cares.

same as my dad

@Deleted User But I need to be looked after.

I can't do shit on my own

@vegeta I'm saying whatever that looks like, make it a goal

I guess I could get one of my friends to look after me.

@vegeta if that means you live with another woman, another family, on your own, whatever