I don't want to talk to her

when i tried talking to my dad about him being abusive i didnt have any evidence and felt like an idiot

@vegeta you don't have to, but if you can, and you give her all of the changes to do so, then that's all you can do

I feel like I'm a cunt whenever I think my mum is being mean to me.

I always end up thinking it's my fault

@vegeta some people simply refuse to act like an adult, and that's up the them.

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I gave my father and brother a long long time to shape up, and they kept hurting me, so I stopped talking to them for about 8-10 years now

I'm a MUCH happier person

I'm also a mad crazy american 🦀

Family need to act like family, or else they can take a hike.

One time I tried to confront my mum about everything she's done to me (I don't want to get into detail) and she flipped the blame onto me, and I just took it.

@vegeta that's what abusers do, bro

i think its also important to note that if your mother ever tries to say "you cant leave your family because they're you're family" you should think of the saying "blood is thicker than the water of the womb"

Sometimes i think i don't even love her anymore.

it's never their fault, or else they would have to not like themselves

My grandpa was like this.

None of us were that broken up when he died.

Granpa did nothing wrong

@vegeta you're innocent, obviously. at 13, and in a wheelchair, you can't take care of yourself. She's responsible - don't forget that

anyone else have a narcissistic*abuser?

Spot the red flags

@dogl my father, but parents were divorced

I feel horrible thinking that she's abusive, she's allowed me to live here.

@vegeta allow?

ok its good to know im not the only one in this chat with a narc

@vegeta she's obligated, not you

My mom isn't the best person. Inhereted her dad's naracssim and aggression.

@vegeta dude, don't let her manipulate your feelings

@Emma same here !

But she's my mum

@vegeta she has to act like one first

@vegeta you can't be an abuser and a mother at the same time, if you ask me

She looked after me since I was a baby

@vegeta she has to, or else she has to give you away

She's the kind of person who can do no wrong, and has to have something to complain about with every person she meets. Including family.

@vegeta you don't owe her, she made the choices that led to you

@Emma my mum is similar

@vegeta she has to earn your love, dude

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Usually takes something trivial and blows it up into a huge deal.