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I gave my father and brother a long long time to shape up, and they kept hurting me, so I stopped talking to them for about 8-10 years now
I'm a MUCH happier person
I'm also a mad crazy american 🦀
Family need to act like family, or else they can take a hike.
One time I tried to confront my mum about everything she's done to me (I don't want to get into detail) and she flipped the blame onto me, and I just took it.
@vegeta that's what abusers do, bro
i think its also important to note that if your mother ever tries to say "you cant leave your family because they're you're family" you should think of the saying "blood is thicker than the water of the womb"
Sometimes i think i don't even love her anymore.
it's never their fault, or else they would have to not like themselves
My grandpa was like this.
None of us were that broken up when he died.
Granpa did nothing wrong
@vegeta you're innocent, obviously. at 13, and in a wheelchair, you can't take care of yourself. She's responsible - don't forget that
anyone else have a narcissistic*abuser?
Spot the red flags
@dogl my father, but parents were divorced
I feel horrible thinking that she's abusive, she's allowed me to live here.
@vegeta allow?
ok its good to know im not the only one in this chat with a narc
My mom isn't the best person. Inhereted her dad's naracssim and aggression.
@vegeta dude, don't let her manipulate your feelings
But she's my mum
@vegeta she has to act like one first
@vegeta you can't be an abuser and a mother at the same time, if you ask me
She looked after me since I was a baby
@vegeta she has to, or else she has to give you away
She's the kind of person who can do no wrong, and has to have something to complain about with every person she meets. Including family.
@vegeta you don't owe her, she made the choices that led to you
@vegeta she has to earn your love, dude
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Usually takes something trivial and blows it up into a huge deal.
The closest thing to a mother I've ever had was my bestfriend
If she can't think of anything to do that with, she'll just make something up and convince herself it's real.
mountains out of molehills
@vegeta find it wherever you can
And then will complain about it, yell at you for it. And boast about your problems to strangers, right infront of you
@vegeta your mother doesn't own your thoughts or feelings