Pride is a large thing amongst many men. 😛

Heheh

I hope I can help him lessen the intensity though

If we get into an argument he doesn’t talk to me for awhile bc his heart hardens over it

Meanwhile I’ve usually already forgiven and moved on

Well, forgiveness is important.

You love him, I'm guessing, right?

It is!!!

Yes

Forgive him for his pride and his heart hardening.

I'm sure he respects you.

Men are stubborn sometimes.

He is respectful of me. And I don’t hold it against him bc I’m very stubborn myself

Talking about theology, spirituality, or anything to do with beliefs can get intense. If he's respectful to you, that shows a lot about his values.

As well as his character.

Yes I truly believe he’s an alpha male too.

We haven’t been talking not only since he’s busy but bc of something like that

So he usually is the one leading?

Yeah

And assertive

He has depression but he still studied hard, goes to school full time

Studies*

Takes care of his responsibilities which I really admire

That is very admirable.

But we haven’t been talking bc he feels I insulted his religion when I didn’t mean to. (The time that I did I was emotional so I probably didn’t word myself correctly) so he hasn’t forgiven me for that. He was actually still willing to talk to me though, just as long as we don’t speak of religion again. But I don’t want to have a relationship like that so I just said I won’t talk to him for however long it takes him

He said he doesn’t know how long it’d take him. But even so was still respectful of me

Try to be patient if you can.

He sounds very willful.

Lol he is

But yes I actually have a lot of patience

So it’s alright

New biblical question! It’s a good one

Pride is the same nature of anger

I love Jesse bc all my life I’ve struggled with my anger, just a couple months ago when I discovered him & his churches I really felt my anger decrease

My anger has protected me a lot of my life

It’s hard to shed

But then in relationships, it’s damaging

I always had this issue when I’m angry I esp felt I couldn’t hold back my words. It’s finally starting to change.

Also from Jesse I know that I’ve basically took on my mothers anger and identity. She’s bipolar and as a child was very scary. (Luckily I’m not bipolar tho lol)

If you want to help him, the best thing you can do is to allow him to see himself. That doesn’t mean you start listing things off and bringing anything to his attention, just be kind and loving, be a living example of love and he will change. Hold no resentment towards him. If you are angry go to him and apologize for holding it against him and tell him you forgive him, never try to push your ideas or thoughts, beliefs into your man, 99.99% of the time it will be rejected and create resentment or strife

Absolutely. I agree with you 100%