I guess it gets more nuanced as well if you consider if they had this child out of wedlock or if there was a marriage.

Also you are probably right, no real difference between a single mom and single dad.

single parents should strive to be one and raise their children legitimately.

By getting into a relationship with either, you are an interference to that process.

So yeah, no real nuance either. Sometimes I speak too soon with whatever frivolous ideal pops into my head. I'm trying to overcome that.

I have a question that just spawned from your response. But I will wait till everyone answers your question first. @DasBoles

That is a pretty good answer you have. I agree to it!

@Szayel's Pooppion @Officer_Caleb @Deleted User New question posted!
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Yes, a relationship with a single mom is viable - but I think it depends on the amount of kids, ages, the other parent's involvement - like @Deleted User said, viable but very difficult

It’s not an area that I’m really familiar with.

It's okay, @Officer_Caleb, you can still take a stab at it by looking at it objectively.

Pass on being with female with kids. I'm sure it is fine but no thanks.

Here is my clear answer, sorry for any confusion above. I think single parent dating is harmful to children, and only serves the selfishness of the parent. I know that single parents should be encouraged to set petty stuff aside and raise their children legitimately.

@Deleted User I hear you, bro. I have dated single fathers and 9/10 it is the other parent who has an issue with me. No thanks!

That's the thing, someone somewhere is going to see you as a rival. The other parent, or the child that is not yours.

I'm a "single" father too btw. This was something I did while in rebellion.

i put single in quotes because I am still married to my son's mother, although we have been living separate lives for longer than we had a relationship.

she would say we are single, or not married, and I used to too before my eyes were open

@DasBoles and you both can't work things out?

She doesn't want to. She is taken by the whole women's liberation bologna

Oh. Ouch

I'm not blameless though. My behavior encouraged her. I was an angry volatile boy when we conceived and married.

That's why I support Jesse's message of rebuilding the man to rebuild the family

I’ll repeat this again because my mother has told me this many times, “It’s easier to raise a strong, mature, young man then try and fix a Broken Man.”

And it’s part of the reason why I enjoy watching Jesse.

We are born broken, born into rebellion against God. The ONLY thing that can "fix" that is the redemption.

Very much agreed, and going to Church and being saved myself really helped pave that way.

Christ is a firm foundation for a young men and women.

I thought I was saved when I was little. I said the prayer after all, and got baptized to the applause of the onlooking congregation. Boy was I deceived. It wasn't until I was truly redeemed and given a new heart that it was clear that I did that out of vanity. Its what I was told to do, and it was a way to gain acceptance from people. You could say I took the Lord's name in vain.

God works in mysterious ways though. That life now serves as proof positive of the work God started in me when I was very very young, probably even before the foundation of the world. And as He promised, he leaves no work unfinished.

I was saved at a young age and I understood the decision I was making. It wasn't until I was 13 or 14 that I realized, when I became baptized, what it truly meant to be a Christian. I grew so much after moving to ND and being taught by my Pastor (Jeff) and he really helped me grow in the faith. Sadly, he left the church where I was at and went to work for the Dakota Baptist Association. Which that leads into another conversation at this point so I'll stop. It just shows us that even tho we understand the decision, we don't fully understand until much older.

interesting

The truth is, I dont know how God works. I know I had an experience when I was probably 5 or so of God pointing at me from the sky, and I immediately started asking my mom about Gods will, and asking if he had his finger over all of us, controlling what we do. She had no answers, of course. Sunday school was off and on, then we stopped going. Then I was a teenager, and my school mates went to church, so I wanted to go to, to make friends and find acceptance and validation that was seriously lacking at home. I may have already prayed for God to lead me at this point, i can't remember. But the preacher gave me the words to pray to ask for salvation, then he baptized me.

By the age of 16 I was doubting all of it, by 18 I was a proclaimed Atheist (ikr). But still Atheism left me unsatisfied for this question that sprung forth as a child. I started learning the secret things, the Occult things. I was only getting angrier and more volatile through this whole ordeal. Started doing drugs, seeking spiritual experience through them. I can't even tell you when it all clicked into place, that I DID believe in God, and all of the things I was learning were against god, for it is all Deification of the Self. This is something fairly new, since I hit my 30's. My true repentance, and acceptance of the sacrifice literally changed my whole everything.

Who knows how much destruction I caused during those times, how many were led astray or influenced by me. But it was only after that true repentance that scripture was revealed to me when I read it. Before it was just a bunch of nonsense from the stone age. Praise Him who reveals all things in the fullness of time. Praise the Almighty.

I felt the same way (in understanding scripture) after being taught by the best pastor I have ever meant. Something that I held onto was Anxiety which actually caused me to doubt God's Plan which is something I harbored for many years until 1 1/2 to 2 years ago. Once you finally recognize what your doing, that's when God can truly Save you.

And like Jesse teaches, I had to forgive my parents and siblings before I could be forgiven. I grew up in an abusive home, what I once believed to be the cause of my bitterness. But once I accepted that they too were raised in abusive homes, and were no more in control of the destruction they caused than I was, and I didnt want the grudge any more, forgiveness replaced whatever it was I felt before. Blame? Resentment? It really does seem so far away now, like I'm trying to describe how some other person felt.

New question: **According to Jesse, he said 'divorced single parents should not remarry'. In relation to single moms who are raising their children in single family homes without maintaining much contact with the father: what advice or counseling would you give to that single mother to help her raise those children right?** (Remember, father is limited)

@Deleted User That's a pretty good question. I would advise her to seek someone willing to mentor the children. Probably best if it was a couple, maybe people who have already raised children successfully.