Message from @Officer_Caleb
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Can a relationship with a single mom be viable?
Oooh good one!
That can be asked about single dads too, (i think the answers are different)
I think the answer is the same, honestly.
I agree with Jesse to a certain extent.
Single parents with children should only be with other single parents with children. Singles with no children fair better with singles with no children.
In this case, the adults have to put their selfish ways behind them and ensure that the bond between the child and the other biological parent is still good.
However, there is complexity that comes with all of that when kids are involved. It would be a delicate balancing act.
However, scripture does not talk about being the husband of multiple wives and kids and I think that is where Jesse is getting that from.
Anyway, in short, it is viable but very difficult. It must be done right.
I guess it gets more nuanced as well if you consider if they had this child out of wedlock or if there was a marriage.
Also you are probably right, no real difference between a single mom and single dad.
single parents should strive to be one and raise their children legitimately.
By getting into a relationship with either, you are an interference to that process.
So yeah, no real nuance either. Sometimes I speak too soon with whatever frivolous ideal pops into my head. I'm trying to overcome that.
I have a question that just spawned from your response. But I will wait till everyone answers your question first. @DasBoles
That is a pretty good answer you have. I agree to it!
@Szayel's Pooppion @Officer_Caleb @Deleted User New question posted!
@Sar @Orlando @Queen @Choose Life
Yes, a relationship with a single mom is viable - but I think it depends on the amount of kids, ages, the other parent's involvement - like @Deleted User said, viable but very difficult
It's okay, @Officer_Caleb, you can still take a stab at it by looking at it objectively.
Pass on being with female with kids. I'm sure it is fine but no thanks.
Here is my clear answer, sorry for any confusion above. I think single parent dating is harmful to children, and only serves the selfishness of the parent. I know that single parents should be encouraged to set petty stuff aside and raise their children legitimately.
@Deleted User I hear you, bro. I have dated single fathers and 9/10 it is the other parent who has an issue with me. No thanks!
That's the thing, someone somewhere is going to see you as a rival. The other parent, or the child that is not yours.
I'm a "single" father too btw. This was something I did while in rebellion.
i put single in quotes because I am still married to my son's mother, although we have been living separate lives for longer than we had a relationship.
she would say we are single, or not married, and I used to too before my eyes were open
@DasBoles and you both can't work things out?
She doesn't want to. She is taken by the whole women's liberation bologna
Oh. Ouch
I'm not blameless though. My behavior encouraged her. I was an angry volatile boy when we conceived and married.
That's why I support Jesse's message of rebuilding the man to rebuild the family
I’ll repeat this again because my mother has told me this many times, “It’s easier to raise a strong, mature, young man then try and fix a Broken Man.”
And it’s part of the reason why I enjoy watching Jesse.
We are born broken, born into rebellion against God. The ONLY thing that can "fix" that is the redemption.
Very much agreed, and going to Church and being saved myself really helped pave that way.
Christ is a firm foundation for a young men and women.
I thought I was saved when I was little. I said the prayer after all, and got baptized to the applause of the onlooking congregation. Boy was I deceived. It wasn't until I was truly redeemed and given a new heart that it was clear that I did that out of vanity. Its what I was told to do, and it was a way to gain acceptance from people. You could say I took the Lord's name in vain.
God works in mysterious ways though. That life now serves as proof positive of the work God started in me when I was very very young, probably even before the foundation of the world. And as He promised, he leaves no work unfinished.