so both sides learned to no longer sacrifice

laws are not about you, its about your lawyers life

I don't mind anecdotal evidence, as long as that isn't your only evidence.
I find too often pseudo intellectual people will pounce on you for mentioning any personal experience like personal experience should be 100% discounted.

anecdotal evidence requires a logical approach to be somewhat acceptable

"I saw a ghost" is not logical, hence doesn't work

wrong

its subjectively logical

"I left the stoveo n and my house caught fire" Is a good anecdote 😛

Me and my Ex were together for about 6 years and never slept together mainly cause I wanted to wait till marriage to prove to myself and her it wasn't some physical attraction. However it also ended up with me pulling all the work in keeping the relationship going

Hmm

Staying up late at night to talk to her, never forgetting holidays, etc. While she believes a relationship, especially long term, should just flow

Its a commitment

The way I kinda put it was that people like "falling in love" not "being in love"

exactly

Love in a comitted relationship is a decision, not a feeling.

it takes 2 to tango

you fall in love, and after a while the magic runs out, and you just gotta pray you've grown fond enough of the other person to keep going 😄

and that they feel the same way

The honeymoon period will always end

in general the "fire of love" runs out within 5 years, and some make it to 8

Mind you the best closure I got was "I fell out of love with you" which was a kick in the throat 😂

after that you can still be fond of each other and stay together committed, but burning passion for decades is very rare

ok but seriously i dont even know what to search for to find out who is "on the ballot", i dont even know what im voting about

What she said was "Now that the emotion is gone, I don't want to commit to this relationship."

I can't be much help, in my nations mid-terms i vote for someone who's not establishment and has the funniest name

lol

Thats not a joke Vesdii, i did it for 2 elections now, and the 3rd one is coming up in 3 weeks

I prefer that old quote about relationships. "If your forced to choose between two people in a relationship, choose the second one. Because if you loved the first you would have never fallen for the second"

lol

Wha? That just seems like a blind trust to passion.

I think that's a bit short sighted. It's somewhat natural for people to be attracted to others regardless of a love for someone else.

I'd never advise anyone to make a decision on passion.

wouldnt that just pit previous infatuation against current infatuation?

seems useless

It's your responsibility as someone in a relationship to avoid situations where that happens.

That's also kinda the point voidsoul

find someone who yuo're passionate about, but also has the same long-term goals you want

People have replaced the word infatuation with love I'm modern society

Someone who's your co-op teammate in real life

the same happens with men too in relationships. They (at least the ones I dated / almost dated) believed sex was the deciding factor and without it, there was not point to be together. Because I don't care to have sex 'til marriage *and want to only be with one person* I haven't dated in years. It goes both ways with reasons for breaking up.

Nobody told me that limerence is outdated.