She knows

Massive mistakes like loopholes that can be exploited by unsavory people, which will reflect poorly on the community as a whole.

And Wol and Paradox, please show a little humanity here

I've just given up tbh

whats her age

Whatever happens happens

She is 22

Was she being encouraged by people Hiniku? Basically people encouraging her to do it instead of allowing her to make her own decision?

sigh

She has a group of "supportive" friends

Oh boy

People should be allowed to make their own decisions. If you are truly their friend, you wouldn't encourage to pick a certain path, you will let them choose and stand behind them.

I am showing humanity, a lot more than you might think,

humanity is also about accepting that being nice and caring isn't the only thing a person needs to move on, or as advice

Her "supportive" friends encouraged her, they basically encouraging her to go down a single path.

With her making her own decision, which is a massive decision on her part.

I think if she has a high likely hood of hurting herself, it would be immoral for me not to get involved

She should be the one to make that decision.

She is already depressed

Not entirely sure I even know what humanity is. I suppose most of humanity would just throw them off a tall buildling, but that doesn't seem all that helpful to me.

And her "supportive" friends should have stood behind her regardless of the decision.

they shouldn't be peer pressuring her into doing something like that. That's a personal matter that should not be steered by someone else

I suggest you stand by her Hiniku.

Trans sucks and surgery is last ditch. But for many people, it provided relief and contentment.

Try to encourage her.

Her friends that encouraged her to pick a their chosen path... you should tell them to fuck off.

and for others it gave them the push into the wrong direction to know they FUBAR'ed themselves and then kill themselves

well who the hell wouldn't kill themselves if they chopped off their dick?

And if your friend is already emotionally unstable, it probably isn't wise to make such a life altering decision at this point. Your friend needs to wait until they feel like they could handle something like that before they make such a drastic change

Its up to them to decide that after, before the point of no return all you can do is be honest to them and try to have them realise the point of no return is there

Wol, what I referred to was you comment about the will or paradox's comment about buying "her" a gun

I have a very bad feeling she thinks this surgery will change everything. I have a feeling won't. I have a feeling it will bring her a lot of pain.

humor is a coping mechanism 😦

Fair enough

What's wrong with buying them a gun? Are you saying that is somehow not appropriate? Why not?

I'm worried af

Surgery doesn't change everything

as you should be

Oh dear lord she needs to understand that

Here is a suggestion: ask her where she sees herself in 10 years, what her goals are,

22 is very young. I am very different from what I was at that age, and can't imagine making a decision like that so early in life

Surgery doesn't change anything... it is a massive decision that she can't return from.