Message from @Strufa
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Indeed
my dogs are my kids 😃
I don't think that's true, Three. I think that women are encouraged to communicate and have aptitude for communication, therefore use it more in the development of friendships. But,it's not discounting men can be very lonely - and I don't think society overly cares if they are. Which is sad.
Dude dont overextend
@ThreeOfOne Loneliness isn't just having no one around, it's also the feeling of not being able to connect to anyone despite being surrounded by people. Just because I have a vagina doesn't mean that I don't feel lonely at times. sometimes I even feel lonely while I'm hanging out with people I call friends.
you are filling a void dont forget that
again I said most women, not discounting exceptions
@ThreeOfOne you also have jerks but yes a man is mostly expected to initiate contact
god dammit this is Evangelion all over gain
again*
Are you lonely, @ThreeOfOne ?
no matter what happens i will always fill a void in space
The entire plot of that anime is literally the incapability of humans to make conections with others
thats the second psycholigical crux of humanity the hedgehog dilemma
my atoms will disperse air molecules in all directions in order to take up room in 3d space
tribalism does help with that one tho
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EcXURC_nNhc&feature=share for all you lonely hearts out there
you feel like you belong
I think it is difficult for many men to speak to things that make them appear vulnerable too. I have no qualms saying things like "I am lonely" whereas the men in my life I know would struggle to admit this.
@Beyr I don't wanna make this about me but yes, I consider myself a pretty lonely person. I grew up a latchkey kid, mostly raised myself because my mom was busy working. Never learned to bond or connect with other people and later learned I might be on the autism spectrum, so I've never really experienced a true friendship in the 24 years I've been on this planet
"A number of porcupines huddled together for warmth on a cold day in winter; but, as they began to prick one another with their quills, they were obliged to disperse. However the cold drove them together again, when just the same thing happened. At last, after many turns of huddling and dispersing, they discovered that they would be best off by remaining at a little distance from one another. In the same way the need of society drives the human porcupines together, only to be mutually repelled by the many prickly and disagreeable qualities of their nature. The moderate distance which they at last discover to be the only tolerable condition of intercourse, is the code of politeness and fine manners; and those who transgress it are roughly told—in the English phrase—to keep their distance. By this arrangement the mutual need of warmth is only very moderately satisfied; but then people do not get pricked. A man who has some heat in himself prefers to remain outside, where he will neither prick other people nor get pricked himself."
@Strufa that’s true but the danger is when the group is shown a group as enemy without real reason
my misanthropy cured my loneliness
Evangelion cured mine actually
if lonely just watch Robin Seplut https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=745wl3EvMd4
In my experience people only ever tolerated me for the utility I provided, the very moment that need was met they disappeared or became hostile
Well @ThreeOfOne, luckily I think making friends and such is a skill people can learn. It's like any other muscle that's not used very often and takes exercise. The book that helped me is an older one that my grandfather gave me. "How to win friends and influence people".
Die Arriers und die Juden
now i just find everything amusing
Actually if we go back to the old crazy fart Freud
Humans desire to die due to the fact they want peace again
Old crazy fart Freud 😂
they hate to live because they cant really connect and feel lonely
@Beyr I hope I don't offend you with my defeatism but I've mostly given up
so they either want to go back to the original womb the peace of death
or want to become one with others
offend*
aka the paradise of most religions
i dunno whats so peaceful about eternal darkness