Message from @dabezt

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2018-12-19 14:39:51 UTC  

omg...

2018-12-19 14:39:55 UTC  

so what happened?

2018-12-19 14:40:16 UTC  

She came in “wanting” to apologize

2018-12-19 14:40:23 UTC  

They had a bit of discussion

2018-12-19 14:40:36 UTC  

She complained about how shitty her life was with him

2018-12-19 14:40:52 UTC  

Then he told her “well I never had much chance to be with you”

2018-12-19 14:41:02 UTC  

She then started being mad and hitting him

2018-12-19 14:41:17 UTC  

what did he do?

2018-12-19 14:41:32 UTC  

Back to her?

2018-12-19 14:41:33 UTC  

nothing

2018-12-19 14:41:39 UTC  

in general

2018-12-19 14:41:47 UTC  

Oh

2018-12-19 14:41:59 UTC  

Well

2018-12-19 14:42:07 UTC  

He didn’t have much time to be with her

2018-12-19 14:42:10 UTC  

Because of work

2018-12-19 14:42:17 UTC  

And he had to educate me and my sister

2018-12-19 14:42:47 UTC  

so he had to be the real parent, in other words

2018-12-19 14:43:00 UTC  

did he at least get single parent benefits?

2018-12-19 14:43:05 UTC  

no

2018-12-19 14:43:52 UTC  

did he apply?

2018-12-19 14:45:16 UTC  

nope

2018-12-19 14:53:33 UTC  

so whatds going to happen now?

2018-12-19 15:11:09 UTC  

I don’t know

2018-12-19 15:22:45 UTC  

@Dan da Dad I'm gonna add that tax link to the list, I think

2018-12-19 15:27:27 UTC  

@Dan da Dad that's applicable US wide, right?

2018-12-19 16:16:46 UTC  

alimony laws can vary by state

2018-12-19 16:19:16 UTC  

I'm curious as to why the link doesn't mention Georgia specifically though, in regards to tax deduction, that would be federal no?

2018-12-19 23:49:46 UTC  

I believe so, @InsaneCaterpilla

2018-12-19 23:50:45 UTC  

@dabezt I can understand about the eruption. Even as we neared divorce, my wife and I tried to talk about serious things. When things were surface, we were cool, calm and collected. When something serious emerged, try as we might, it would become an argument

2018-12-19 23:51:27 UTC  

Even good people can't help how they feel. Emotion is a multiplicative force, love being the strongest. With many conflicting thoughts and feelings coming through, it was probably tough for them to stay settled.

2018-12-19 23:51:46 UTC  

I still love my wife, despite the adultery, and despite the ghastly treatment.

2018-12-19 23:52:32 UTC  

When I see her, I must compose myself because my love for her creates fantasies and illusions - references to good times in the past my brain doesn't want to let go of - and deal with her as the person she is before me.

2018-12-19 23:52:47 UTC  

Divorce is business. Unfortunately, it's in the feeling business.

2018-12-19 23:54:26 UTC  

There’s also no real social impediment for violent eruptions on men, people just see it as “not counting” because they picture a slap to the face. But worse things happen and men can get hurt

2018-12-19 23:56:12 UTC  

Absolutely. Men feel that reporting is weakness, but bottling the disrespect and treatment can cause long lasting damage to the relationship and of course the man himself

2018-12-19 23:56:28 UTC  

Resentment, trust issues, self-worth

2018-12-20 03:11:10 UTC  

And that men can be arrested for reporting

2018-12-20 03:11:21 UTC  

Or defending themselves

2018-12-24 11:41:53 UTC  

I'm glad i found this channel, just reading back a few sounds like I am going through a very similar experience as everyone here

2018-12-24 11:44:44 UTC  

@Dan da Dad I've been having just about the exact emotions and sentiments as you. Especially when thinking of the good times in the past.

2018-12-24 11:45:53 UTC  

I'm currently trying to choose representation in a possible divorce but not sure how to proceed, can I DM someone for more info?