If you'd like to tell your dad's story as part of it, let me know.

im fine with my dads story being on there

but yea i guess its kinda getting better now but we still have financial proplems

That's good to hear at least

I just want to come out with my story of how a woman abused her power over me to ruin my life for years

We are here for you. Lay it out there.

She was my first girlfriend. We started dating in my junior year of high school. I was inexperienced, she was pretty and interested, so it ended up happening. Things started out relatively alright, but eventually I started hearing things like "oh, men" from her while we were cuddling, and she'd hit me lightly on my body with various objects she happened to be holding at the time. She'd also joke about us breaking up, jokes that got more and more extreme over time. She also did a role-play with me in which she was pregnant with her ex's child after he raped her (I later found out that she was "raped" during a sex role-play between her and her ex) and tried to claim the child was mine. Eventually we were talking about abortion, and I said that if I ever have a child I hope the mother would keep it for the child's sake. She got really mad about that and violently objected to what I said, saying a woman has every right to an abortion and that my opinion should have no place in that decision. Finally, the day came when she basically asked me to propose to her at 17 years old, and of course I told her to wait until we were older. She left me the next week for another guy, and then came back for more of the same after he dropped her. We dated on and off for 2 whole years in increasingly toxic relationships without me ever having sex with her, and after that I felt ruined both on an emotional and sexual level.

Like, I couldn't even really talk to girls outside of a platonic context until this year, although I tried at some points, and failed, because I thought that this girl I dated was the norm, and that I should basically not try to say or do anything that I thought might make them uncomfortable, lest I get hit lightly, or insulted, or shamed. I was also always afraid that I'd just get used or strung along or something, or that women would hurt me once I opened myself up to them. I'm pleased to say that I'm finally starting to be more comfortable talking emotionally with women, and flirting, and saying that I want something from them. I'm especially starting to be more comfortable with my sexuality and wanting sex with women I'm attracted to despite her trying to make me feel bad for wanting it. So yeah, despite this whole shadow hanging over me for a large chunk of my youth, I'm finally recovering. Take that, bitch

P.S. Found out after the fact that she is a very serious and devout feminist. Not sure all of them are that bad, but I personally will never date a feminist after what I experienced. I just can't open myself up to that possibility again

It's good that you're starting to do better mate, there's no shame in wanting sex, most people do :3

sex is great, just remember the old saying though "don't stick dick in crazy", I'm sorry, but you do deserve better, no one should have to put up with that kind of shit.

I'm really glad you got out of that, and I hope you don't have any more problems. If you would like, I can put your story on www.menarehuman.com for awareness about toxic relationships. Would you be comfortable with that?

I'd just like to keep this here. I don't want to make some big public proclamation about what happened

I just wanted to get it out there

That's absolutely fine. It can be anonymous, but I won't push you to do anything you don't want. I really do hope you have better luck with it. It's not easy, but you know the warning signs now, at least.

Sorry for the double post btw, I don't know exactly how that happened, but it should be gone now.

@InsaneCaterpilla can i tell you one of the things im panicing about

if you have time?

Sure ok

so im 15 and at school a girl keeps doing stuff thats.... interesting and its worrying me.......

so shes fairly new to the school

she brags about how she beats kids and hits em

she hasnt touched me though

anyhoo, over this week she has been saying she will beat me when im walking home

You walk on the same route back together? Is that all she says or do you generally talk about stuff on the way back?

she says it during the school day and..

she said "ill have sex with you and ill make it hurt like hell you ugly fuck"

i said "NO! you cant make me"

she says thats she can

(shes much stronger then me)

so thats weird

she said that twice but never did it

err..... im just confused

Mmm

its been worrying me as i allready have autism, ADHD and anxiety -_-

Well, first if you want advice mate, the first thing I would do is talk to her seriously and make it clear to her that if she wants to be your friend then it's not right to threaten you and stuff, and if she keeps doing it you're gonna stop hanging anywhere around her

If that doesn't work, she keeps doing it and coming up to you and harassing you, you should definitely tell a teacher about it

i didnt say shes my friend and its not my choice to be by her as we have assigned seats

however we get new seats soon

Yea I get that mate, its just possible that's the way she's trying to act. Seems like she's 'not quite all there'

idk what that means