And I get....

“Are you serious she’s going to cry couldn’t you just say you were long distance friends and you won’t be able to talk much. “ from her best friend and what used to be my friend

Well you said what was needed man.

I’m I the asshole here?

Evidently not. This person seems quite hostile and not understanding.

I don’t even know why they are so unstable

Like I guess they had a disagreement with their mom but it wasn’t abusive apparently so like?!

Whatever, guess I just lost 1 friend plus an old acquaintance.

Maybe I just have shit luck with girls but like hey, I got hit on, so I can cross that off my bucket list

I don’t think this has anything to do with gender and everything to do with personality

I can understand being lonely but it seems a bit weird to reach out to people you haven't talked to in years to satisfy your own loneliness

I mean if I haven't talked to someone in literal years I don't think it'd be fair to them to contact them with expectations

Right.

I mean I feel lonely heck I feel lonely right now, it’s kinda why I’m here

But she was sleeping over at a friends place, why bother getting in drama with me

I’m just so torn up about this

It’s alright man. We’ve all been there.

Everyone knows I’m easily manipulated and guilt tripped and the worst part is that it’s true

Like I feel so guilty

It's not your fault man, I very seriously doubt that if the situation were reversed she would be feeling guilty about turning you down

To quote an argument I've seen used far too often, "You don't owe her anything"

Her friend even saying "She's going to cry" is just an attempt to guilt you and you're letting it work

Moral of the story is you're allowed to say "no" too, and don't let yourself be tricked into believing you're not @Thedemogamer💙

@Thedemogamer💙 That sounds like a real pain.

Hello @Niven81 and @Choi Utama !

Thanks for having me

@Niven81 No worries. 🙂

So, what's going on tonight, everyone?

Not much if I'm honest, just browsing the web. Might go for a nice session of simracing, though.

Simracing?

Realistic racing games. Really awesome hobby.

Pretty much the digital simulated version of driving a car

Neat!

So I guess here is the update, her friend hates me, and she texted me this morning but seems unstable after last night, so I have them both set to ignore. I’m not 100% confident, but I think this is the right thing

I think it’s the best option under these circumstances

I mean she ghosted me years ago when we were actually friends which is why we stopped talking so I don’t feel I owe it to her.

The fact that she ghosted you makes it a much easier choice to be honest

You are not required to help anybody. It is not your job, and neither did you agree/promise to it before. She has no right to be upset at you.