and it's kind of fucking slim pickins there

especially at the height of 'daddy' culture

tbh, I think things even out when you get to like 40 and the dating pool has usually fucked up a marriage already at that point, and has a better idea of who they are as a result

tbh

I want a nice girl, who's got like super long hair

gotta build yourself up a bit. takes time. it's hard, that's who not many people do it. deep down a lot of us are like that. get scared by stupid shit.

@Nucky By any chance how long is your hair?

@Some Polish-Hungarian Guy

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I'm talking like

a girl with her hair down to her waist

i can't really say that there's any good way to go about doing that, but you just have to keep at it. i find what helps is to stop comparing yourself to others, and start comparing yourself to who you were yesterday, and just make it about that.

See

I'm always being myself

but most people don't appreciate that

it's better that they don't

life doesn't have enough room to give everyone your time

true

most people are niggers

only a small handful of people are worth it

I built myself up I thought, but coming back around—all those foundations came crumbling down

I don’t know what to do with myself. I suppose I was better off gone, when there was no them to lose

I dunno man

my mom's side of the family pisses me off though

as you get older you get more used to loss

yeah

doesn't make it good

you just get more used to it

being in the military will get you well acquainted to that

I know the feeling far too well

Now that I think about it, I've only known my mother's side of the family.

the foundation crumbling, how many times have you dealt with that?

nvm, re-reading that it sounds more of a social thing than ideological

most people tend to associate with those that they do because it's easy. is really the root of it. whoever is at hand that causes less friction. the next layer is usually shared interest or identity.

like, I have the groups I go to, and then I have my group

and the people in that group are the people i've run into who are just A++

for whatever reason

I don't have any irl friends

my friends in the army fucked me over

it's hard when your time gets pinned like that too

the ones I have mostly just fell into toe same group in high school. handful of people from different grades. most went off to do their thing, but about 6 of us stuck

then i merged that group with the group of friends i made in college