don't really know how to self-actualize either, but I've always thought that you need to meet all of the things below the top of the pyramid before you can self-actualize

@Shido yeah, it';s fustrating but the sooner you become conscious of this the sooner you can fill it and build further layers of 'meaing'

I agree with Shido on this one

I don't think all of my needs were really met during childhood, which is why I have emotional problems

well isnt self-actualising when you, 'self', actually realise, 'actualise', your potential and personal mission in life

I have trouble sticking with meditation

be alone is one the key to face your fears and your negative thoughs

Well being alone without any internet, or technology

go into the woods by yourself and reflect

so the only way to do that is to ask yourself the big questions :(quoting from avatar the last airbender) "who are you? and what do you want!?"

get into nature

yep

running alone with your though, exercice,

i do a thing

a mysterious one

when i learned about the validation concept

i changed my phone number and give it only to my family

i cut everything from social network

i just want to be alone and to face it deeper

if you set urself a goal, you inherit a direction - it doesn't matter if you don't achieve the goal as the real asset is direction - as with direction you have channelled focus and can more easily access a 'flow' state of consciousness

^Very true

You have to be clear with yourself though

@JDB well said

“ The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” ― Bruce Lee.

Well, women are the same in every society. What varies is the level of self control that they impose to themselves

the only reason things come in pairs is because we need to diversify our genetic makeup to avoid extinction - if there was no fear for extinction there wud be no women

@Kazemaru true and unfortunately even in places that are better the standard constantly falls

self-reflect>find your passion>commit relentlessly>Self-actualize>realize your potential and personal freedom

For example, women in latin-american countries havê more self control then the ones of the west

@Sigma exactly!

You have to look at people like Muhammed Ali, Bruce Lee, Arnold S, Nikola Tesla, Mushashi, Einstein, Newton, David Goggins, and Many more...A lot of this stuff was explained in the book Mastery by Robert Greene. One thing they all had in common was that they had a life mission or a life's task

Wright brothers

nothing swayed them from their path

Laser like focus and determination

exactly - they felt they had a 'calling'

Is there a quick way to find your calling? That's where I'm stuck right now

I don't currently have one

@Sigma lets see.... Fins a way of transforming your escapism hobbies in productive hobbies

reading could be escapism too, but I rationalize

the thing nowadays is a lot of people don't realise how useful university can be. in robert's book he says that one of they keys to mastery is undertaking an apprenticeship where you accept how little you know, don't question, and just absorb. nowadays people just get onto degrees for the sake of it and don't see it as an apprenticeship where you can have student-master contact.

I could see myself teaching martial arts