Message from @Invective

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2019-02-21 03:46:39 UTC  

Call me elitist, but an intelligent high school drop-out doesn't cut it for me

2019-02-21 03:47:58 UTC  

It's a question of priorities and time scale, I think.

2019-02-21 03:48:55 UTC  

Perhaps economics, but even then, you're more likely she's in debt than you are that her second income will end up being net positive after maternity leave and daycare

2019-02-21 03:51:13 UTC  

And where does 'brainwashed' fair in? Like most college educations don't amount to that anyway?

2019-02-21 03:51:17 UTC  

@Dangerous Spaces
It's a bloody shit hole

2019-02-21 03:51:18 UTC  

Priorities and time scale, exactly. It just means people settle down later in life. I wouldn't call that messed up. Some other stuff with the online dating culture is messed up, but the carreer-family balance seems healthy

2019-02-21 03:52:38 UTC  

I'm in it for a loving family and bringing up quality people to be around me for generations and positively affect the culture.

2019-02-21 03:52:45 UTC  

What is it now, like 70% divorce rate? Seems healthy?

2019-02-21 03:52:49 UTC  

These kind of discussions are really interesting. I come from a rural, very red state so traditional family is a very common sight, even stay-at-home moms. So to see people from other regions talking about my normal is... surreal I guess.

2019-02-21 03:53:25 UTC  

Anything that dissuades people from forming stable, nuclear families is wrong.

2019-02-21 03:53:35 UTC  

Stay there, man. Yours is the ideal.

2019-02-21 03:53:55 UTC  

nvm "brainwashed", its just a bone i picked with my ex

2019-02-21 03:56:22 UTC  

Commies should be issued free helicopter rides with great ocean views

2019-02-21 03:56:47 UTC  

Volcanoes are a lovely view.

2019-02-21 03:57:08 UTC  

Send them to the literal lake of fire

2019-02-21 03:57:49 UTC  

RE "Priorities and time scale, exactly. It just means people settle down later in life": and they have fewer kids, less energy to raise them, they barely know or feel attachment to their grandparents, etc.

2019-02-21 03:58:30 UTC  

you end up making your mating selection and number of kids based on the time crunch of her fertility.

2019-02-21 03:59:01 UTC  

@Frog here's an hypothesis. 70% divorce rate comes from people who have no idea what they are doing or what they want or how to communicate it properly. I may very well be wrong, but I see people settling down later in life as a factor for stronger marriages on the long run.

2019-02-21 03:59:17 UTC  

less energy is just weak ass people excuses because they took the health they started with in their youth for granted (generalizing)

2019-02-21 03:59:37 UTC  

Divorce rate is because people are selfish

2019-02-21 03:59:42 UTC  

if you maintain your body you keep your energy

2019-02-21 03:59:50 UTC  

They think marriage is all about themselves

2019-02-21 04:00:01 UTC  

Marriage is about sacrifice

2019-02-21 04:00:14 UTC  

Like Matt said, if one settles too soon, you may not know what you want. Sure you could, perhaps, make it work for your lifetime after a lot of work, but you might very well be miserable for a lifetime

2019-02-21 04:00:17 UTC  

partially, but when you have your first kid at around 30, you're 45 by the time it's a teenager.

2019-02-21 04:00:21 UTC  

But Sal. They fell out of love...or some bullshit excuse

2019-02-21 04:00:32 UTC  

One must be willing to sacrifice in order to have a successful marriage

2019-02-21 04:00:47 UTC  

Romance is weak

2019-02-21 04:00:53 UTC  

Sacrifice is strong

2019-02-21 04:00:58 UTC  

@Arn I’d agree with this. A fair number of people have gotten married with someone just because that is what you were supposed to do, much like going college.

2019-02-21 04:01:25 UTC  

say your kid waits until _they're_ 30 to have kids and base case scenario you're 60 when your grandchild is born and 75 when it's 15.

2019-02-21 04:01:27 UTC  

that's _insane_.

2019-02-21 04:01:59 UTC  

and that's for the _first_ kid.

2019-02-21 04:02:07 UTC  

Younger is better because the woman’s eggs are fresher.

2019-02-21 04:02:14 UTC  

@newtradist That is EXACTLY my story. I'm the first of my siblings and my mother had me at 38

2019-02-21 04:02:34 UTC  

younger women older men seems to be the natural way

2019-02-21 04:02:37 UTC  

had a stay at home dad as well!

2019-02-21 04:02:39 UTC  

i'm sorry that this is personal now, but i think that's unfortunate, man.

2019-02-21 04:02:47 UTC  

So get married to someone with a young body but an older mind

2019-02-21 04:03:08 UTC  

I'm turning alright so far!

2019-02-21 04:03:19 UTC  

Men are the head of the household