Message from @patron Saint of EATIN

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2018-02-12 02:03:02 UTC  

It's your job as the man in the relationship to lead

2018-02-12 02:03:11 UTC  

Take her by the hand and guide her

2018-02-12 02:03:17 UTC  

Don't just give up if she's truly great

2018-02-12 02:04:02 UTC  

Trust me. @Fash Dragon trust me, there's a million thin chicks out there that aren't worth a damn

2018-02-12 02:04:16 UTC  

If she isn't willing to take your gentle guidance, you can move on

2018-02-12 02:04:18 UTC  

You got a point haha

2018-02-12 02:04:24 UTC  

But I wouldn't discount her completely m

2018-02-12 02:04:36 UTC  

That's more or less what I'm thinking

2018-02-12 02:04:51 UTC  

If my husband and I had based our relationship choice on appearance alone instead of our chemistry and shared interests, we wouldn't be together

2018-02-12 02:05:12 UTC  

And he has since overhauled his diet and I've gotten literal surgery to help me stop drinking

2018-02-12 02:05:33 UTC  

He losing weight and I'm getting sober. That's what a relationship is. A team.

2018-02-12 02:06:07 UTC  

The modern standard is so bent toward consumerism, even of PEOPLE. If they don't meet all of our checklist points, we just throw them away? That's bullshit.

2018-02-12 02:07:18 UTC  

And @FashyGoy1488 may be right, perhaps her body type is a reflection of how she feels about herself, but that could also evolve in the course of a relationship. I'm talking short term. If she isn't willing to pull her weight (no pun intended) move on.

2018-02-12 02:07:46 UTC  

She's literally the closest thing I have ever found to a big tiddy goth gf

2018-02-12 02:08:00 UTC  

Of course she probably doesn't care about herself. Who among us did before we came here?

2018-02-12 02:08:06 UTC  

I sure as fuck didn't.

2018-02-12 02:10:02 UTC  

I'm not guaranteeing you she will change. Fuck, I really don't even expect her to, honestly. But I don't know her. And neither does anyone else here. If you feel you can connect and have good chemistry, it's worth at least attempting to lead her in the right direction. Trad guys always want to talk about leading a normie woman down the right path and making her a wife, but if anything deviates even slightly from their checklist they cut and run. Here's your chance, buddy.

2018-02-12 02:10:25 UTC  

You make a lot.of really good points

2018-02-12 02:10:38 UTC  

I think that's good advice. And our chemistry is FANTASTIC

2018-02-12 02:10:53 UTC  

that's honestly the only reason I've stuck around this long

2018-02-12 02:11:05 UTC  

Chemistry is imperative. Anything else can be modified with gentle guidance over time.

2018-02-12 02:11:41 UTC  

If you need help on how to nudge her in the right direction, seriously hit up my husband @parrott . It's certainly insane to throw a real human connection away over some pounds of flesh.

2018-02-12 02:12:08 UTC  

Any tips

2018-02-12 02:12:23 UTC  

Like obviously you're a woman that's done a bit of self improvement

2018-02-12 02:12:45 UTC  

Set the example is number one, obviously. Express concern for her health, never address the weight. Talk about how her body needs to be healthy for her future children.

2018-02-12 02:13:08 UTC  

Encourage her STRONGLY to participate in physical fitness with you, but start out slow.

2018-02-12 02:13:15 UTC  

COOK TOGETHER. MAKE IT FUN.

2018-02-12 02:13:32 UTC  

Find out her favorite foods and give them a healthy remix that you guys can make together.

2018-02-12 02:13:57 UTC  

Obviously she has low self esteem or something. Find ways to build that up. Subtly, not cringe style.

2018-02-12 02:15:57 UTC  

I don't know how close you guys are, but if you're close enough, help her shop for cute, form flattering workout clothes.

2018-02-12 02:16:43 UTC  

Take walks. Plan them so you end up at a place she likes, or a place of relationship significance

2018-02-12 02:20:31 UTC  

Yeah, you can find out if she’s willing to make positive changes to her life/diet

2018-02-12 02:20:44 UTC  

If she’s down, you guys could totally do it together and stuff

2018-02-12 02:20:46 UTC  

Sorry for the wall of text. If you need any advice @Fash Dragon , my husband and I are always here to talk to. Good luck.

2018-02-12 02:21:35 UTC  

But some women don’t desire to make healthier choices, and if that’s the case with her, I suggest you move on because you actually care about yourself and in the end she will only weigh you down (also no pun intended)

2018-02-12 02:21:41 UTC  

Best of luck brother

2018-02-12 02:26:30 UTC  

This is really good advice guys. Thank you a lot

2018-02-12 02:27:29 UTC  

@patron Saint of EATIN Is right. Look, you can't turn a whore into a housewife, but you can turn a good woman into a better woman. Apply some National Socialism to the situation. Looks alone will end, youve gotta think about the genes you want passed on and who you want to spend the rest of your life with

2018-02-12 02:27:35 UTC  

Trust me man, marriage is hard

2018-02-12 02:28:01 UTC  

You can always improve looks, cant usually improve personality

2018-02-12 02:29:10 UTC  

And if she shares your dreams, your passion, and is a good woman; she'll naturally wanna improve herself if you lead her