Shepherd.

Hello kings. I got a relationship problem.

Gf is awesome when I'm around. Most of the time. She's kind of messed up in the head and does stupid shit when she's drunk. I've been helping her overcome her problems for the past six months or so.

Right now I'm in the field, so I'm away. She just did some stupid shit to her roommate and might have gotten herself in trouble because she was drinking again and I wasn't there to stop her.

I've only been gone like three weeks. I don't see her again for another five months.

She keeps drunk texting me about how sometimes she purposely tries to make me upset so I leave her, because I apparently deserve someone better.

What am I supposed to make of this?

I don't think she's cheating on me or anything

She just does dumbass shit that's bad her her physical and mental health.

Sometimes I feel like a dad more than a boyfriend. Like I have to baby her about being an adult and doing basic adult things right.

@HEARTBREA/K/ Still up fam ?

It seems like she self sabotages things because of some undealt or purposely ignored emotional pain. You gotta dig through some shit but try to confront these actions and why she wanted to be left alone. If she wants you to leave,ask her why if you love her and she loves you,why would I ever need to be absent from her life if she really loves you. Is it that shes too weak to admit how she really feels ? Is her alcohol use a way to cope with whatever she's been through

@HEARTBREA/K/ man you need to sit down and call her and talk about what's going on here because this shit is a massive ass red flag

No stable woman acts like that

If you got access to her friends and family try asking them if there's anything up with her that theyve noticed

So inhave broblem.

And idk how to deal

My gf qas a stripper my fault but now she wont shut the fuck up about it and is such a serious turnoff that I won't fuck at all if i hear her even mention it

How the fuck do i get over this shit or do i just cut sling

We have kids that are attatched to each other but not actual siblings

Maybe just talk to her about it? Like bring up your concerns with it, like hey that was the past could we keep it there

Meh shes kinda a baby..

Hence why most of my problems just get shoved to the back of my mind

That's cancerous af dude. You gotta address it or it'll fester and eat away at you. I know from experience. Just bring it up in a soft or casual way

She's a attention whore, she wants attention negative or posative

I dump those bitches so fast

Last one constantly wanted to show me dick pic's and talk about all the people she had sex with, just to evoke a reaction. I'm not insecure about my dick or my ability to please a woman, but I don't wanna hear that shit, I don't talk about it I'm not that type of person.

Yeah I understand that feeling. Not enough time or energy to care about petty shit

what @Degenerate Furry said

Self pitying losers and people that are stuck in the past get dropped

Can't let these tards hold you back

Never let anyone hold you back king's and maybe the one queen we have., People wanna drag you down because they hate themselves and are really insecure, shit is wack., Don't be a wack mother fucker like them.

We should all aspire to raise each other up, but that doesn't coincide with human nature sadly.

horrs aren't worth getting caught up with

^

I did tell my girl when we started dating years ago that if she was holding me back Id cut her loose, and that I expected the same from her. Its been a good level of mutual understanding

I told my girl at the very start what my expectations are

and it works out fine because we have a mutual understanding of htis

and are emotionally independent

so it works out fine

clingy shit always falls apart