Dude it'll be worth it

And that's coming from the man with the broken heart

Well, again, I'm not too well mentally to begin with.

So, I really don't want to go into a relationship until I have at least some of that under control.

How so?

Like, real talk, I genuinely hate myself.

That's just how I feel.

And I think negatively a lot.

Dude why?

I mean, I don't like certain parts of myself and I used to hate myself

I've had this negative opinion of myself for a while, probably started off as self depricating humor and spiraled out of control to the point where I started to believe my own jokes

i feel that irl my attitude just annoys people and feel like a burden to peole.

To me it was the other way around

No wait, I actually remember now.

People said mean things to me and then I'd just use self depricating humor to get out

I didn't do so well in school and I felt like a dissapointment to my parents for not doing as well as I should have, now that I actually thought about it.

Then whenever I made one of those jokes around my ex she'd glare at me or say 'please don't say that'

I doubt you disappointed your parents, that's hard to do

no, but considering my parents wanted me to do well, and when I didn't meet expectations, it just made me feel the most horrible feeling of self-loathing i've felt, and I've never really gotten a hold of it.

It pretty much comes and goes depending on whatever circumstances I find myself into + how my mind decides to perceive these situations.

Like I go through periods of times where I just don't want to be anywhere, and then after a while, it just goes away, and everything is okay-ish.

Your parents have expectations, but they also want you to be happy

However cheesy that sounds

All my parents want is for me to be independent and happy

Yes they'd prefer it if I was the head manager of a bank or something, but they're happy if I'm happy, and I'm sure your parents are the same

Probably?

I don't know sometimes.

I feel like they rather see me be doing well first before I feel happy, but I don't know. I'm not a good people reader.

And it's probably something my state of mind is making up anyway.

Then talk to them you dolt

I'm not sounding like a victim am I?

You can always just take my route and say "fuck it"

Focus on yourself first

Not sure how old you are, but the younger you are the more time you have. That's time you should spend furthering interests of yours.

Early 20s

Yeah, now's basically your moment in life to decide where you're going from here

Relationships tend to distract

Well, I don't think I can really do that, I'm kind of locked in already

I mean

I felt locked in too

Considering my family wants me to be this big strong provider man for my future family