Also, spot on calling her behavior "on the offensive " instead of mistaking it as defensive. She wants you to think its defensive so you will feel like you are attacking her. Straight manipulation.

@Deleted User You can love your man, and even tell him so. You just cant give him love, or provide love to him. No more than I can give love to Christ Jesus, even though I love him. A weak man will depend on that love, he will "need" it from you to fill him. A strong man won't have to depend on it, no more than Christ Jesus depends on my love.

To answer #2 You will know you have your alpha when you love him, but he doesnt lean on it. If he starts whining and seeking your comfort, and tellin you all about his bad day looking for you to make him feel better, you got yourself a BAYTUH MALE

Also, you really shouldnt have too much in common, or else he would be like you, a woman.

@DasBoles Thank you for those answers! In relation to your first answer, can you please clarify your first statement by providing examples?

I can, probably. But I have to board up some windows for this hurricane coming through.

ttyl

@DasBoles Stay safe out there, friend!

I agree with that alpha vs beta stuff. I thought about that alot

HOWEVER I think it's really good a man and woman have a lot in common, as in their political, social views and values so that the relationship can last. These seem to be the most important things to judge

Trivial things like their fav foods and such don't matter at all ofc.

Agreed.

@Deleted User Thanks, I will have to get back to those questions in a few days. We're about to be out of power for who knows how long. I'm heading inland. Say a prayer for us.

@DasBoles Many prayers to you and your family! Be safe!!

Someone told me that worrying is a sin. What are everyone's thoughts?

Hm thats possible. Maybe bc worrying is built upon the future and we're not supposed to be thinking about that

but as long as you don't stay in it so prolonged that you develop an anxiety over it, it should be okay

I believe when it envelopes into Anxiety then it would be a sin. I used to struggle with Anxiety until I learned to cope.

Me too. I had crippling anxiety

@Szayel's Pooppion @Officer_Caleb so how is anxiety a sin?

I don't know for sure that it is

Because instead of Leaning on God for understanding you are leaning on your own. If you worry too much to the point when it controls you then your aren’t placing faith in God but yourself.

but I think anxiety is probably a side effect of being in a fallen state, since like I said, we're not supposed to be worrying excessively of the future

Thats true sir

the last part esp stuck out

I can’t say that Worry is directly a sin as in we see it in the 10 Commandments but I do believe that God has given us instruction not to.

@Szayel's Pooppion @Officer_Caleb Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Here are mine:
Worrying is human. It can show love and concern for the person or thing you are thinking about. It can get out of hand if you add in 'coulda-shoulda-woulda' to the equation - this develops fear. Fear is the by product of Satan. Anxiety is excessive worry = fear.

Fear brings upon isolation from God. To @Officer_Caleb 's point, you end up leaning into your own understanding instead of letting go and letting God.

A little worrying doesn't hurt but events tend to happen when they are out of our control. Just silently pray, let the worries pass through, and let them go.

I love throwing out questions to make people think a bit and love learning from others. Thanks for participating, fam!

Thank you, as well! @Deleted User I appreciate the challenge of explaining my beliefs and glad we all can have actually productive conversation.

@Deleted User Thanks for sharing yours too. Very profound & agreed. Anxiety is certainly in the same spirit as fear which we know is from Papi satan's toolbox

Here is another question: is there such a thing an an alpha or beta female?

Excellent question. Not sure to be honest.

Yes

I think the same rule applies for women. Alpha females still come below alpha males still ofc

I guess you can take my mother as an Example of an 'Alpha Female', she is pretty quite most of the time but she is very opinionated and is like a steam roller when she has to be. There have been many instances when people don't like that just like Alpha Males.

Oh that sounds like me <:GWmythicalThonkCool:367331557100224522>

Hm

Now that got me thinking

I think that women who are "alpha" are typically just bossy. Lol i think women and men should inspire and lead the same way: by example and from the front of the ranks. Let everyone see you, your work ethic and and your "goodness" (for lack of better term) and dont be ashamed of it. If you lead a good life and are successful because of it (you usually will be in my experience :3) it wont matter if youre a dude or not. People emulate success (after they hate it typically...looking at you mainly females). When i go out i make it conscious decision that i will be what other people wanna be. Kind, firm and fair. I think that because we lack the expectation of strong male leaders anymore in the USA that either gender can have this. For better or worse that, im not sure yet.

Most don’t like me or my opinions as well lol

Hm idk about bossy