Message from @DasBoles
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It feels like the right thing to do is keep her out of my life.
your welcome
if it helps mine dont even talk to me any more haha
As long as you have Gods love!
Hey @Seven I've recently overcame my abusive mother. I forgave her for her ignorance, forgave her for what she knew was wrong, but did for her pleasure. The truth is, she either didn't know what she was doing, or didnt have control of her self.
Beware the emotional "sobpology" she will use to make you feel sorry for her. JLP teaches truth when he says emotion is not part of manliness. So when she goes into full submit mode, and tries to act helpless she wants your compassion. Dont give it to her, reserve that passion for God, hold your emotion, forgive her, and fly the nest. Fly high and fast.
I have a good couple of questions for Jesse/Any Men to answer:
1) A woman can't give love because the man is the one who is supposed to give it to the woman. How can a single woman move about the world successfully without love from a man?
Women:
2) How do you know when you have met your Alpha male? Did it start off having alot of things in common (like normal) or was it something deeper?
@Deleted User I don't have all of the answers but an alpha won't be emotional and he wont be driven by sexual lust or any other physical pleasures. If he has anger for anyone, he is a beta
@Seven Thank you for your answer. I would like to expand a little on your answer: So, are you saying that a man shouldn't say how he feels about the woman. It is assumed? This is why I am confused.
Sure he can say what he feels, but what he feels should not be lustful or emotional. He should be stoic. Jesse recommends that men and women date for 1 year without sex or any sensuality before getting married and then becoming intimate. This is the best possible scenario for each of you and your future children. So It would be assumed that you spend lots of time with each other and build a spiritual bond before becoming intimate. So naturally I would assume after those 50+ dates you would have a pretty clear understanding that he was into you especially if he respected you enough to reserve his lust.
Understood, thank you. @Seven
@Seven Do you want to give a stab at the original question? How can a single woman navigate this world without the love of a man?
@Deleted User Sure, it's a great question. She should be still and know God so that he can reveal to her her path, with his love - which is the strongest love - he should fill her heart with his love and provide to her his plan. JLP recommends silent prayer every morning and night.
Awesome answer, thank you!
@Seven Its a really good idea to have actually forgiven her in your heart before you tell her. Instead of expecting the forgiveness conversation to work like some magic spell. Also, I bet you got some anger at your dad for just letting you sit there in that abuse. He had to know.
Sometimes we have anger hidden in our heart. I thought I was good with my dad, until I realized I wasn't. Turns out he was just as forgivable as my mom.
my mom cried and acted like she was doubling over with the pain of it. "I had no idea i was like that" she said. :/ ok. My dad said Thank you
Also, spot on calling her behavior "on the offensive " instead of mistaking it as defensive. She wants you to think its defensive so you will feel like you are attacking her. Straight manipulation.
@Deleted User You can love your man, and even tell him so. You just cant give him love, or provide love to him. No more than I can give love to Christ Jesus, even though I love him. A weak man will depend on that love, he will "need" it from you to fill him. A strong man won't have to depend on it, no more than Christ Jesus depends on my love.
To answer #2 You will know you have your alpha when you love him, but he doesnt lean on it. If he starts whining and seeking your comfort, and tellin you all about his bad day looking for you to make him feel better, you got yourself a BAYTUH MALE
Also, you really shouldnt have too much in common, or else he would be like you, a woman.
@DasBoles Thank you for those answers! In relation to your first answer, can you please clarify your first statement by providing examples?
I can, probably. But I have to board up some windows for this hurricane coming through.
ttyl
@DasBoles Stay safe out there, friend!
I agree with that alpha vs beta stuff. I thought about that alot
HOWEVER I think it's really good a man and woman have a lot in common, as in their political, social views and values so that the relationship can last. These seem to be the most important things to judge
Trivial things like their fav foods and such don't matter at all ofc.
Agreed.
@Deleted User Thanks, I will have to get back to those questions in a few days. We're about to be out of power for who knows how long. I'm heading inland. Say a prayer for us.
@DasBoles Many prayers to you and your family! Be safe!!
Someone told me that worrying is a sin. What are everyone's thoughts?
Hm thats possible. Maybe bc worrying is built upon the future and we're not supposed to be thinking about that
but as long as you don't stay in it so prolonged that you develop an anxiety over it, it should be okay
I believe when it envelopes into Anxiety then it would be a sin. I used to struggle with Anxiety until I learned to cope.
Me too. I had crippling anxiety
@Szayel's Pooppion @Officer_Caleb so how is anxiety a sin?
I don't know for sure that it is
Because instead of Leaning on God for understanding you are leaning on your own. If you worry too much to the point when it controls you then your aren’t placing faith in God but yourself.
but I think anxiety is probably a side effect of being in a fallen state, since like I said, we're not supposed to be worrying excessively of the future