It's easier to illustrate

Thank you

I don't really have a support network so not having anyone to talk to just magnifies the pain. I'm done with girls. I can't go through this again

Well, it helps to stop touching the stove.

But not everyone can stop right away

@𓅂 𝔗𝔥𝔢𝔏𝔞𝔰𝔱𝔊𝔬𝔡𝔎𝔦𝔫𝔤𓅂 Yeah, I am a dumbass. I don't want to cut the pain off. I need to feel every ounce of it and just learn.

-stop giving her control over your thoughts and focus, start proactively changing your mental focus when you catch your mind wander back to her
-care more about how you think/view yourself than her or any one else
-practice not holding on too heavily to the words/actions she sends your way... or any other woman.
-please go listen to the Cult of Black Phillip (aka Patrice Oneal) on youtube, this guy will change your life

So it is best to break the conditioning that playing with the stove.

@LPA FreeNeko (Hermit's Youth)🇺🇸 Yeah I believe if he tries to go full monk as he is right now he'll just be repressing his desires and not confronting his issues

4 things for a start

I just started. I need at least a year or two of torment - barring STI/pregnancy/marriage/false accusations. I will not break rules for those.

It'll blow up after a while

@Noctah I didn't discover this knowledge till I hit one of my lower points.

When I was in a foster home.

@God Emperor Jigaboo Oh shit. Thank you.

@LPA FreeNeko (Hermit's Youth)🇺🇸 Turns out "learn now, or die" is a good motivation

Cult of black Philip was my first into red pill territory a few years back

@Noctah You're 100% right because I've been repressing all these desires since I was a kid and only ever gave in until now... at age 23. Talk about a late bloomer.

"care more about how you think/view yourself than her or any one else"

this one is hard for me

@reagoge That's not the worst of it. Middle Age crisis is the illustration of people's almost boundless tolerance and repression of themselves

It helped foster away my suicidal ideations.

Either way, I said my part. Good luck

Do y'all think it'd be better for me to just cut all contact with her? I feel like if i did that her being gone would just hurt even more

@Noctah I have been listening to "7RU7H - Heartless" all day. It's not working haha. I will try to address the deeper needs.

@𓅂 𝔗𝔥𝔢𝔏𝔞𝔰𝔱𝔊𝔬𝔡𝔎𝔦𝔫𝔤𓅂 How much do you talk now?

Before discovering MGTOW (randomly running into a TFM video on IQ and Sex), my thoughts were a near constant thought of "When is this madness going to end?"

MGTOW life is beating me up, you guys.

A few times a week

That doesn't seem too bad.

my first 2 relationships were with crazy bitches.... my 1st gf who "took" my cherry was fucking bipolar, neurotic, narcissistic, manipulative, and a ton of other issues. my 2nd gf, she was one of those girls who got sexually abused by a family member then developed into the type of girl to be very promiscuous. by the time i got with her i was like her 41st dick.

as the saying goes @reagoge
"Experience comes from bad decisions, bad decisions come from lack of experience...."

We all learn one way or another, no way gets through life without any "scars" or stories

I'm stuck here, by myself, eating a gigantic filet mignon chateaubriand with rosemary garlic cream sauce and no one is here to tell me to have a salad.

@Xychotic haha sounds ROUGH

😄

@𓅂 𝔗𝔥𝔢𝔏𝔞𝔰𝔱𝔊𝔬𝔡𝔎𝔦𝔫𝔤𓅂 Are you the type who can cold turkey?

Yeah but if it was up to me I'd talk to her every day all day. I just fucking miss her

That's MGTOW lyfe, you gaiz. I struggle for you.

Just pray and hopefully it will get better @Xychotic

@Xychotic Boomer Going His Own Way

@Xychotic have a salad on top of that 😛

@God Emperor Jigaboo I think my girl is 1 and 2, lol. She's on 54mg concerta daily too for ADHD and has bipolar.