Message from @Donut Steel Tendies
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Well, on one hand, it is true that I'm not in the best mental condition recently and my self esteem is really damn low, maybe even somewhat unreasonably so.
but I also believe that there is more to people than looks, though I think being overweight is a consequence of bad descisions and maybe it's okay to find it undesirable
i wouldn't worry about external relationships until you feel better about yourself
He wasn't saying he was less than average. He was saying he is 'even less than average attracted to people who are overweight.
You aren't obligated to like someone back just because they like you. But I would be straightforward with her and say you only see her as a friend.
Also, I think it helps be realistic about yourself when setting your standards, and decide what is most important to you.
Like for me, a sense of humor and smarts was most important, Everything else was flexible to a certain degree.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Been having these problems since at least 5 years ago and I don't even know what to do. Tried everything, nothing worked
Self confidence and thinking positively are great equalizers, they affect how you present yourself to the world. What is something you think is good about yourself?
I have above average self consciousness so I'm less likely to do something cringy I guess
Just don't get too far into your own head with it. It took me a long time to learn that it doesn't matter what you do/don't do, you'll never get everyone to like you. Your best bet is to worry about yourself and what you like, and not worry about other people so much, the ones who like you for you will stick around.
I used to have hobbies but I just don't seem to care about them much anymore
I need to find something new to do
Hobbies are important. They can be frustrating because sometimes they feel like another commitment you are having trouble keeping up with, but you just gotta take it at your own pace.
Well, I've always been into cars. Maybe it's time to get serious about that
Cars are cool, plus it'll help save you money if you can do stuff yourself.
I've done some rust repair
done a shite job but I've learned a lot
I replaced the alternator on my Saturn, it took like a week, but it saved us a lot of money. I love my Saturn, not very much on it breaks, and the stuff that does is easy to fix.
My dad was a Porsche mechanic when he was younger, now he buys them cheap and broken and fixes em all up and sells em.
normally it would do but it has too much rust so I don't want to invest into it
that's pretty cool
Sometimes I help him out, they have such expensive parts though.
So what are your other interests?
Obviously, video games
but I'd like to reduce that
I aalso do some basic 3D modelling
I like video games too, they can become very time consuming. I've played a lot less since my little dude was born. I still enjoy watching twitch though.
yeah
So 3d modelling like on a computer? That sounds awesome.
I mostly do low to med poly car models
made like 4 of them since I'm not that quick. All made for VRChat
That's pretty cool though. I assemble and paint minis, the little DnD models, I find it pretty peaceful.
I always wanted to try DnD but I have no friends xD
It's hard to get enough people together regularly to keep a game going. We've managed a few glorious summers, but It would always be nice to do more.
Maybe one day I'll get enough people online together to try it since it sounds fun
They do have some cool online programs for it nowadays..
Is it true that most people here are ex-TRP?
I'm not TRP, my brother is currently, though. The other guys seem pretty legit in being ex-TRP.