Heyo everybody

I cant wait to see all of the craziness that this discord consists of

You're good lol

It's just me

An unsuspecting fed

@Scr0m

Ultimatums never work. either you're upset or she is. There has to be communication, compromise and a space for you both to talk freely without judgement.

You're not always going to agree with your partner or get along or have the same general consensus. That's normal, because no one is exactly alike all the time.

However, you need to respect your partners hard boundaries. If they tell you no or that they dont want to do something, then that's a no and it should not be pushed because that leads to resentment. The same should apply to her. She should respect your hard boundries without question.

If shes giving you ultimatums then shes insecure about something or the other or someone's in her ear making her insecure or frankly shes just trying to control something she shouldn't be.

Relationships should be 50-50, but sometimes need to be 80-20 to account for good and bad days.

You and your significant other need to sit down and have a conversation about what's going on. It's not going to be easy or quick but it has to happen.

PS I am @thedarkness05 's girlfriend

@Scr0m#0699 @thedarkness05 and I had to have that conversation and it wasnt pleasant for me to hear but it was for the best. [For both water and space]

I think that communication on what you need day to day is important, some days @thedarkness05 wants to hangout and do whatever but then theres days where he has to hang with his goons or play dnd or do his thing and then I do my thing.

Yay for contributing!

So cute!!!

@thedarkness05 @Hellhound6

Did we not get there to pick you guys up eventually??

In my defense, I at least attempted to communicate and figure out specifically where you guys were. For not ever having seen the area and being unaware of so many 1 way streets I think our timing was within a reasonable time allotment

What's done is done. I'll be better next time

@thedarkness05 let's do it

So you do

Feets

> She approves of my goon antics
@thedarkness05 can confirm that goon antics are approved.

I was in Richmond too, supporting the goons

Not even

@Hellhound6 this is a lie and you should know it

NY pizza is best

Deep dish has nothing on a true NY slice @PanzerWrecker

@PanzerWrecker @thedarkness05 and I will have to take the trip out

FED

Same

Obviously I'm the most fed

@thedarkness05 without question marksmanship is important

I have the note 8 and it's pretty great. I'm all for the notes

@Scr0m sorry to hear about your lizard. :(

@Shura37564 do you need to get them taken out

If you can, try to do every tooth all in one go. Itll be less pain in the long run

@Shura37564 turn off your phone and just ignore them. You need to put your own health and needs first.

We're all here for you

@Bodark Actual that's fucked.

Can you send a reminder invoice?

@Bodark Actual wishing you the best of luck at this meeting tomorrow. No one should fuck around with someone else's livleyhood

@Bard good luck dude, you have this in the bag

Amazing puppet

Pupper

Oh sorry to hear that @INNYGMATYK

@thedarkness05 let's get nachos then

@OverlordSaltBagel @thedarkness05 that one time at hurricane was pretty intense. It was not good n

FED

Fed for sure

@Sir Harndes I'm sorry that happened. That's not easy to deal with at all, just know that were here for you

Theres one confirmed case of coronavirus in NY. Cuomo wont say where.

That's a beautiful tribute @Foxhound

@edgyusername69 theres online information to help those who have been affected. Www.afsp.org

You can find support in your state as well.

Tis a fed

FED

@hildasnowy

Sounds like soemthing a fed would say

I'm not gonna deny it

FEDdiccuni

!rank

Hahaha better than I thought!

Are you still number 1? @thedarkness05

!rank

YAY I went up a level

You are

Second one not meant for cryptids

Says the man who cant get lmao correct 🤣

@thedarkness05

😱😱 they're eating from the food bag again??

Ohh

🤣

@Bodark Actual @Scr0m not to say you're opinions about the situatuon aren't valid. Maybe the tactics work for you, but sometimes people need validation, especially when they themselves are not in a good place. As humans we always seek validation of some kind, maybe consciously or subconsciously. Both men and women need validation. Giving validation when you can see it will have a positive effect on the overall situation. Sometimes people just need to hear it.

@Scr0m maybe that's a conversation to have with your partner then, and let her know that you are having an emotionally tough time and right now you need some time for you and maybe that could be the reason shes seeking validation, because she is seeing a difference in your emotional responses.

A little conversation supported by understanding on both parties goes a long way. The best thing you two can do is talk it out. This conversation should be exclusively between you two and what your needs are in a partnership. Sometimes relationships are 50-50 but sometimes they're 85-15. Your partner is supposed to be there for you and you there for them, if you're both having a tough time you can both support one another as best you can. Eliminating that aspect of conversation just puts you both in separate bubbles and makes you feel like you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.

@Schadraquetor I'm glad you're getting validation from this group, I believe that is the whole purpose. Brotherhood.

@Bodark Actual I agree with you to a certain extent. You have to yourself be grounded before you can take on anything else. But sometimes that's where a partners support, validation and encouragement can help.

@Bodark Actual its apparent that we have opposing viewpoints on relationship roles. That is absolutely okay with me I respect your viewpoints and you're entitled to them. I think that this was a productive conversation for @Scr0m and I hope that everything goes well for him. Glad we could help.

@Bodark Actual absolutely!

@Bodark Actual and you two need to do whats best for you and what works for you!

@Bard well I think its great you're working on yourself, and just know that you have everyone here in the discord rooting for you and as an outlet!

It's TRUE

Yesterday

!rank

Listen you can get away with almost anything in ny these days thanks to the bail reform

Totally bullshot