Message from @madchatter
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@Deleted User I didn't scroll back too far, but from what I read, I think this advice fits. Don't pursue serious relationships until you are 35+
Or find a cougar willing to date young
??? Really kek
But that advice doesn't work for women since they have more value the younger they are.
Yeah
Older women have to lower their standards, maybe help prevent a future Elliot Rodger or two
no, @Risotto, I don't think that really works either. Men will change with age. What they look for in a woman will change. The same is true for women.
Well they can be spinsters then
Enjoy ladies
So, if you go for a cougar when you are young, you might have fun, but it's not going to make for a meaningful long term relationship.
Not everything has to be long term
I'm not saying don't do it. But I started with "Don't pursue serious relationships until you are 35+" because earlier he said he wanted a family.
Young woman want what is terrible for them. I did terrible in the marketplace when I was young. Spent 10 years married. Couldn't believe the quality of women that were interested in me when I became single again.
Oh I see, in context that's a good reply.
Mind fucking blowing women.
I wish I had waited. I wish I had known that time was on my side.
It's only really on your side if you're accruing resources during that time.
@Malt_Hitman is very right. Time is not on women's side, but it is on men's. And If you are not feeling good about things as a young man... wait it out. hone your skills.
we got married fairly young, worked out quite nicely
In some sense, depending on the women, it might be better to get married when you have nothing. At least then you lessen the chance that she's just a gold digger looking for a quick payout.
plus, the non-feminist ladies are usually looking younger, so you're more likely to find them then
Oh yeah! Got to save for the future. And really work on yourself as a person, social skills etc. I cringe to think of the stupid shit I did when I was young because I just didn't understand how I was perceived.
Yeah old NEETs are just uglier versions of young NEETs sadly
I think it helps a marriage if you finish that growing up together - helps you grow in more compatible ways
when you're older, you're less flexible
@madchatter If 2 people who are going to be attracted to the same thing in 20 years are lucky enough to meet when they are young... sure.
But, I'm pretty jaded on that idea at this point.
relationships are a choice, not an accident
you have to decide to be all in; it really changes your mindset
both have to
Marriages are like a corporation IMHO, it's a way to get a tax break and manage jointly used assets
I spent a lot of time in divorced fathers groups and the biggest take away I got (other than some men are shit and I wish they didn't try to play it off like they are one of use) is that if they hadn't got married in their 20s, they would have had any interest in each other in their mid 30s.
So....suicide pact?
lol
I've got a friend in a murder-suicide pact. Not really my thing. I found a partner. We come home to each other every day because we want to. At any point either one of us can not come home.
It's very reassuring to know that your partner chooses you every day. It's not a legal obligation.
I've got many relatives that have been married decades, most married young; nearly all gave me the advice to that marriage is about commitment, not just attraction
We keep our finances separate. She bought the house. I pay her rent. If we split, the equity is hers. We make up our "pre-nup" as we go.
I hope that keeps working out for you.