Panic attacks n all

You feel clueless of what you're going to do, right?

You'll figure it out sooner or later

@Bodark Actual I see

Try to find some support from family and friends

Wish I could help

@Bodark Actual ima be inna rn if ya wanna chat

I'm back and I'm good now I just got overwhelmed

Everything I want is happening and it's a ton to deal with

I also was exhausted

I dunno what's up but my girl has been hitting me with "what do you love about me?" "Do you still like me?" "Why do you like me?" Type shit and it puts me in a shitty spot because a)I cant think of like good well spoke things and b)I dont like being asked that stuff. Its apparent that I do a ton of shit that demonstrates I love her, it's not flowers every day but like shit. I work all the time, I hardly have enough energy to put forth in video games let alone emotional stuff

@Scr0m I had an ex that did this CONSTANTLY. I hated it. I feel that homeslice.

@Schadraquetor dude, its rough. If I asked her, she would have tons of different things to say but like.. I also have 1500 things going on in my head at once especially with work. I just wanna be home and not pressured into coming up with thoughtful creative things

I fucking feel that. In my experience women do that because they feel inadequate and want to feel good about themselves or need constant praise. It's mentally taxing as all fuck. Although your mileage may vary as my ex was actually just a piece of shit. I also struggle personally because I have a hard time expressing things/being outwardly romantic, but that's a me problem.

You add stress and work into the equation and it's just fucking annoying.

No offense, but shit like this is another thing in a long ass list as to why I'm single

If I was not fortunate enough to be with a hella girl who I love to death I would probably be taking a long break off of close relationships, particularly with the politics and evolution of things at the moment.

@Schadraquetor Sounds exactly like the same boat I'm in, tbh. I'm sorta autistic. My girl isnt a piece of shit tho, it is an inadequacy problem. She had a medical procedure that has caused massive stress since january. So she probably is just insecure in it but like it doesnt hella work for me to try and explain that I love her.

That'll do it. My guess is that if she's a good girl her stress will decrease as she continues to medically improve.

Hopefully, we'll see as things go. It's just rough for me being financial, emotional, and physical support beacon all at once. Like fuck.

Been there before, it weighs heavy on a man don'tcha know.

Even now I'm in a better situation, I'm making more money than I ever had before but I'm still paying all living expenses and occasionally helping the girlfriend with her own bills. All I've wanted since I've moved here and taken this job is to spend some money on myself. The reason I've been excited about finally buying a propper AR-15 lately is because I had to sell other guns I didn't want as much to fund the operation.

Wanna know how to deal with those questions

Oof. That's bad news. Honestly I'm in the same boat.

You're not gonna like it but it's long term the right thing for her

@Scr0m I don't mean to paint the relationship in the wrong light, she's amazing and makes me happy. It's just sometimes the role of a man to sacrifice and sometimes it sucks to have to nut up and put up.

"do you like me? Am I pretty enough for you? Please validate me :((((("

Literally don't play, any reassurance you give is going to make her do it more.

"Lol, why you gotta ask dumb questions like that"

@Schadraquetor well you're not wrong. It's not really the wrong light. Theres always a good side. I just wish there was more effort and self motivation than exists now.

"would I be with you if I didn't want to?"

Idk

"The answer is no"

And then move on

@Bodark Actual you're not wrong either. that's a good way to put it

Literally give no attention

When she acts like that

She will up her game and try to get you to break but it's a fitness test

More like a shit-ness test

Yep

Keep doing good partner stuff, providing, taking care etc but don't let her use you to emotionally masturbate

@Bodark Actual @Scr0m not to say you're opinions about the situatuon aren't valid. Maybe the tactics work for you, but sometimes people need validation, especially when they themselves are not in a good place. As humans we always seek validation of some kind, maybe consciously or subconsciously. Both men and women need validation. Giving validation when you can see it will have a positive effect on the overall situation. Sometimes people just need to hear it.

@jecc13 also a fair point. I dont disagree with that whatsoever. I think validation is important when it comes to things a lot. In my current emotional state it's just more of a drain than not and its hard to break that to be able to validate someone else

@jecc13 In fairness I'm finding a lot of personal validation in Patriot Wave that I haven't gotten elsewhere.

It's when you seek validation exclusively from others in your relationships and define yourself by them in an unhealthy way that them validating you is actually harmful

My wife used to do this with me constantly, she was v unhappy.

Stopped playing, now I have healthy motivated wife