Message from @moira
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you literally promoted it for parenting
Yes.
when dealing with pain in a child, it is best to sit them down and talk with them about it
now of course they shouldn't be a crybaby
but you can't just tell them to lock it all up
Children, when they are young, don't know how to control their emotions. Stoicism, in my opinion, is the best way to control your emotions, because of how it can help you in the long-term.
Stoicism isn't about bottling emotions.
It's about facing them.
there are multiple ways to face them
then just locking them up
Again stop repeating that
You're strawmaning stoicism
it's about dealing with them in a healthy and/or productive way
like when you're angry you can either punch the guy that pissed you off in the face
Stop repeating its "locking up emotions" when we've already said 3 times that that's not what it is
or fix problem
No no, Stoicism does not involve locking up emotions.
think of walking the dog when he's whining instead of locking him up in a cage
The lack of display of pain is a product of facing pain, which comes naturally. Thus it's not forced.
this
you are locking them to yourself
a stoic person is still angry but doesn't directly act on it
also your wrong you can face pain while displaying it
No, that comes through facing the pain, it comes naturally. It's not forced, it comes naturally.
Stop saying that Stoicism is about bottling emotions, That's clearly not what Stoicism is about.
that is not what I said that time
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by the definition of stoicism, "The endurance of pain or hardship without the display of emotions and without complain"
that sounds exactly like bottling them up
that doesn't even sound like facing emotions
Okay first of all, that definition isn't entirely true, because a Stoic starts off by facing his pain instead of avoiding it. So every time he is in pain, he faces it. Now the more you do that, the more insignificant the pain is to you. And the more insignificant the pain becomes to you, your need to display your emotions becomes insignificant as well. And that's the point where Stoicism says that, when pain is insignificant to you, and you don't need to display it, then you just don't display it.
That isn't bottling up emotions, because it's like bottling up air - bottling up something you don't care for
part of being human is feeling pain
It basically becomes kind of like your "comfort zone"