Message from @Thedemogamerđź’™
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So is complaining about the gender pay gap
Yep...
I like logic
Like Vulcans from star trek
Well ultimately I mean only not to base whether someone can be your friend only on if they call themselves a feminist. Most I probably couldn't be friends with, but some perhaps
It's possible you could talk her round a bit if you you were careful and gentle about it. You could show her an article on the pay gap maybe.
So girl that I’ve been close friends with lately and has treated me really well, she seems to care and she doesn’t make me support her, she makes sure to listen and helps take care of me when I just feel lost or need to talk, she obviously isn’t a psychologist so it’s not like that but recently she has been really stressed, after prying a lot I found out that she might be pregnant (I say might because she did something stupid 3 weeks ago and is waiting a week to be tested) she really didn’t want to tell me and tbh I just had a gut feeling to ask her if she was (after playing 21 questions) she is clearly scared and the dude is in a different province and they aren’t a couple (this was “break up sex” apparently) she says if she is she wants to keep the baby but she is so stressed and 18 and clearly she was being stupid and she insists I don’t owe her any support or anything like that and I can’t date her (I’m getting over my ex still and she knows that)
Anyways tldr, my friend might be pregnant doesn’t want support (more like doesn’t want me to feel like I have too cause she worries I help to much) but I want to know what my options are, thoughts?
Also in the other flank 2 other female friends are being petty and begging me for support and I care to much for humans to say no but the constant “id kill myself if....” card is minipulative and wrong so I need to stop letting them do that, but I’m just worried they will and I feel terrible when I don’t help but it’s clearly detrimental to my mental health and I just can’t keep doing this, I’m forced to stay up late wake up randomly.
Is it possible you might be the daddy?
100% not
I’m still a Virgin and for reasons just like this
Wait so the other friends are threatening to kill themselves if you don't help them financially?
It’s not financial
It’s emotional support
Oh
They are crazy and I’ve been used by girls throughout middle school and high school
I’m known for being way to caring and not holding down the rules and crap
I let people step on me cause I can’t stand making people sad or disappointed or leaving them in that state.
I see
Last time I said this her friend flipped on me said “she is literally crying right now you monster, jeez she just wanted to be your friends and you won’t even be nice to her”
*sigh*
Not your problem man. You can't control what other people do / how they react to things
I just feel like a terrible human
I've been there man
You're probably being a much better person than they would enjoy to you
If you were emotionally needy
Dude, the last time I talked to this chick before this she just kept leaving me on read when I tried to make conversation
She literally came to me two months ago called me I answered she cried I got emotionally invested.
Then she told me how life sucked, then Started hitting on me (she has a boyfriend) and told me her ex (I person I actually knew I didn’t know her well) was a terrible person and should die.
I don’t know much about this chick and the one time I asked for her help she said she needed to take care of herself. (This was like 2 years ago) I said okay, then later she never texted me back again and now I somehow owe her something
Aghhhhh, I’m just venting at this point but it’s always seeming to be females that minipulate me and I’m not even interested romantically or sexually I don’t usually care if we are friend so I don’t know why I feel like I have to help them.
Even my current friend (who actually doesn’t suck, the possibly pregnant one) says that they are all terrible for it, but I just hate it.
outside observer, that all sounds like a huge boatload of manipulation, you are not imagining it, you are being actively and continuosly manipulated
I agree you're being manipulated
Yeah, and I can relate. I’ve been in similar situations with manipulative individuals before
Me too. I was manipulated and bamboozled.
Also never care what a friend or family member of hers has to say. If they start bothering you about how you're treating the person I suggest politely telling them to not contact you again
never let anyone give you shit for taking care of yourself