Sucks

Need some support but not comfortable posting everything in a public Discord. If you want to help please dm. Thanks.

I just found out that a "friend" is a toxic feminist. What should i do?

Is she a close friend

I am unable to be friends with toxic feminists

It's not a big deal for me though since I'm introverted

Thankfully she isn't.

I think i'll just dump some facts on her and then block

It depends what you mean by toxic. I'm an anti feminist because I believe even people who are fair minded and just ignorant about how harmful feminism is do damage by supporting feminism. But that isn't to say people like that are bad people.

It's easy to dehumanize people you see as an enemy, but they are people

I guess it becomes toxic when it throws out logic

Like this whole "believe women" thing

That's toxic

So is complaining about the gender pay gap

Yep...

I like logic

Like Vulcans from star trek

Well ultimately I mean only not to base whether someone can be your friend only on if they call themselves a feminist. Most I probably couldn't be friends with, but some perhaps

It's possible you could talk her round a bit if you you were careful and gentle about it. You could show her an article on the pay gap maybe.

So girl that I’ve been close friends with lately and has treated me really well, she seems to care and she doesn’t make me support her, she makes sure to listen and helps take care of me when I just feel lost or need to talk, she obviously isn’t a psychologist so it’s not like that but recently she has been really stressed, after prying a lot I found out that she might be pregnant (I say might because she did something stupid 3 weeks ago and is waiting a week to be tested) she really didn’t want to tell me and tbh I just had a gut feeling to ask her if she was (after playing 21 questions) she is clearly scared and the dude is in a different province and they aren’t a couple (this was “break up sex” apparently) she says if she is she wants to keep the baby but she is so stressed and 18 and clearly she was being stupid and she insists I don’t owe her any support or anything like that and I can’t date her (I’m getting over my ex still and she knows that)

Anyways tldr, my friend might be pregnant doesn’t want support (more like doesn’t want me to feel like I have too cause she worries I help to much) but I want to know what my options are, thoughts?

Also in the other flank 2 other female friends are being petty and begging me for support and I care to much for humans to say no but the constant “id kill myself if....” card is minipulative and wrong so I need to stop letting them do that, but I’m just worried they will and I feel terrible when I don’t help but it’s clearly detrimental to my mental health and I just can’t keep doing this, I’m forced to stay up late wake up randomly.

Is it possible you might be the daddy?

100% not

I’m still a Virgin and for reasons just like this

Wait so the other friends are threatening to kill themselves if you don't help them financially?

It’s not financial

It’s emotional support

Oh

They are crazy and I’ve been used by girls throughout middle school and high school

I’m known for being way to caring and not holding down the rules and crap

I let people step on me cause I can’t stand making people sad or disappointed or leaving them in that state.

I see

I took my friends advice and told one of them I needed space.

Last time I said this her friend flipped on me said “she is literally crying right now you monster, jeez she just wanted to be your friends and you won’t even be nice to her”

*sigh*

Not your problem man. You can't control what other people do / how they react to things

I just feel like a terrible human

I've been there man

You're probably being a much better person than they would enjoy to you