I wouldn't want to go home to someone so conniving. That's awful, is everything okay nowadays?

She was an abusive alcoholic so I wasn’t going back, lol

And yeah, things can still be rough, money and my dads health the usual issues, but things are getting much better

He doesn’t want to talk about it much, he wants to leave it behind us and move on, but I’m a mad bitch and I want someone to answer for this shit!

That's fair, I can see why you'd be drawn to the MRM after seeing all of that BS

Yeah, got much love and support here, rather then the usual people who try and make excuses for my mum

But she must have been under so much pressure with her daughter choosing her abusive ex husband over her /s

Well usually more along the line of, “it’s tough to raise children, I’m sure she was only doing what she thought was best for you”... apparently that is an excuse for punching your daughter for not doing the dishes correctly xD

Your usual excuses of “women aren’t as strong so they can’t cause as much damage” really falls apart there because an adult is always going to be much bigger and stronger then a child

Welcome @moon moon 😃

Coincidentally (or maybe not so much) most child abuse is done by women

women are weird

i am one and even i think were all weird

I feel you @moon moon , I really do xD

I can only remember my mum hitting us. She webt through a huge violent spell too but I was a pretty awful kid at the same time. I don't really remember though.

I'm not saying dad*never* spanked us I just don't remember it

I wasn’t an easy kid either, turns out I had ADHD but was miss diagnosed with a bunch of other shit, so I acted out a lot, by the time I was kicked out my mental state was just trash, like... rolling around on the floor kicking and screaming kind of mental, dad was patient and kind, was slow but I was able to heal, even when I kicked him in the face so hard his glasses broke, turns out I really needed my dad.

I had a lot of medical issues growing up. Embarrassing birth defects so I'd have lots of accidents when I was young. I ended up blaming it on her. It's not anyone's fault really but it was just pretty shitty all round.

It’s hard to grow up with any kind of condition, for anyone, and it can be tough on parents but that is not an excuse to FUCKING HIT YOUR KIDS!

Or throw pick them up and slam them repeatedly into the the wall. That one's hard to forget.

Ugh, that’s awful, did you get blamed for breaking the wall too?

Nah she threw me into the living room. I think she was aiming to put.me on the sofa but missed and I ended up Landing short and hitting my head on the edge of it. Had to talk to the teacher at school the next day as to how it happened.

It's a long time ago.

Doesn’t matter how long ago, this shit can stick with you, can make doing certain tasks difficult as such traumas can case bad anxiety over such little and insignificant things

And it can seem really difficult to work through at times

That one I'm over now tbh. At least in comparison to my other scars haha.

I love kids and my parent's have often been examples of what not to do, and I look forward to not being them. I want to be a great dad when I meet the right person.

I’m positive you will make a great dad, I don’t really plan on having kinds but I’d say my mum has been a great lesson on how to not be a mum xD

Good evening

Hello! Briefly scanning up, seems there a pretty engaged core around. How is everyone?

We good, making myself a tea, gotta calm down when I work myself up this much xD

Oh, what's causing you issues?

Just talking about my past, we went though a lot of shit and makes me angry.

More or less the reason I am a MRA now.

Oh I see.. sure you don't need a drink and not a cup of tea ?:D

Too early for rum xD

never too early for rum! is anyone aware why the decision was made to start a discord btw? I'm curious

I like the way you think but I have to drive later xD

And the discord was made to just have it easier to chat and hang out but also as a back up in case the reddit gets deleted.