Message from @cookedbeans

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2019-07-09 05:52:55 UTC  

You'll pick it up, but women's body language *does change* when they're into you and have sexual tension, it might not be immediately noticable though (things like fiddling around, looking around, looking at your feet/sometimes avoiding eye contact, lowering head a little bit while looking you in the eyes)

2019-07-09 05:52:58 UTC  

It's a bit subtle

2019-07-09 05:54:22 UTC  

Subtlety is big

2019-07-09 05:55:11 UTC  

Eh I'm not really good at picking up that sorta shit

2019-07-09 05:55:25 UTC  

Then i again I'm antisocial as all hell

2019-07-09 05:55:32 UTC  

Thing with women is that we tend to naturally become a bit submissive/lower our guard around guys we like

2019-07-09 05:56:24 UTC  

Ah

2019-07-09 05:56:46 UTC  

You really gotta be a bit forward about your intentions though

2019-07-09 05:57:03 UTC  

Some women will give you hints, and if you don't pick it up, they get upset

2019-07-09 05:57:15 UTC  

Some women will get aggressive about it

2019-07-09 05:58:30 UTC  

If I don't pick up the hint I either:
>A) Get fucked for it
>B) They get annoyed
>C) Think I'm not interested
Shit I suck at multiple choice

2019-07-09 05:58:40 UTC  

Yeah

2019-07-09 05:58:43 UTC  

It depends on the girl

2019-07-09 05:58:55 UTC  

And how aggressive she is and what she wants from you

2019-07-09 05:59:03 UTC  

I know

2019-07-09 05:59:09 UTC  

Some girls just want to fuck you/suck your dick and leave ya

2019-07-09 05:59:16 UTC  

Some girls want to fuck your entire life up lol

2019-07-09 05:59:42 UTC  

Some girls will be really into you, but you might not be into them

2019-07-09 06:00:15 UTC  

So many variables

2019-07-09 06:01:03 UTC  

Depends on the girl, but you really, really want a girl who's got similar interests and values as you

2019-07-09 06:01:20 UTC  

That's true

2019-07-09 06:01:42 UTC  

Girls with similar interests/values that are into you, but might not be *as attractive as you would like* are often willing to make physical changes to fit into what you like

2019-07-09 06:02:10 UTC  

Things like losing weight, maintining hygene, etc. but you need to encourage her and support her

2019-07-09 06:05:04 UTC  

You have to be good at explaining why you want her to make those changes though, example:
"I would be more attracted to you if you took better care of your health, I am worried that your weight is going to cause long term health problems and I want you to feel better and more confident about yourself"
"I think you should brush your teeth more, I'm worried about your dental health/hygiene"

2019-07-09 06:06:09 UTC  

So basically promote it without being a dick about it

2019-07-09 06:06:28 UTC  

You might also need to take into consideration that her social circle/upbringing might have caused some personal problems (for example, my mom never taught me basic hygiene and I've been working on improving it for the past couple years, it's some hard habits to break)

2019-07-09 06:06:29 UTC  

yes

2019-07-09 06:07:00 UTC  

You really have to frame it in such a way that you *care about her*

2019-07-09 06:07:01 UTC  

Be considerate about everything and try to understand why she is how she is

2019-07-09 06:07:15 UTC  

Got it

2019-07-09 06:07:51 UTC  

If she's not willing to listen to you about those changes or *try* to attempt those changes, you might want to have a serious talk about the likelihood of the relationship continuing or not

2019-07-09 06:08:14 UTC  

Alright

2019-07-09 06:08:35 UTC  

If she *isn't* willing to listen to you when you try to explain these things/have a conversation, she is not an ideal partner

2019-07-09 06:08:51 UTC  

She isn't going to take you seriously when it comes to arguments or disagreements

2019-07-09 06:09:04 UTC  

Noted

2019-07-09 06:09:04 UTC  

She's going to avoid them and make zero progress

2019-07-09 06:10:36 UTC  

Sometimes women *need* to have a brief temper tantrum, but as long as she can recover from it, come back and apologize, act like an adult and talk about it (and she ***doesn't*** become physically violent!!!), then she might just need some help coping with anger or some personal issues

2019-07-09 06:11:08 UTC  

_physically violent, ouch_

2019-07-09 06:11:14 UTC  

But if she fucking hits you and doesn't say sorry or make up for it, you gotta let her go

2019-07-09 06:11:32 UTC  

If she says sorry and makes up for it, but keeps hitting you, you gotta let her go

2019-07-09 06:11:41 UTC  

She's going to keep hitting you