Message from @Trommm
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but Im nervous as fuck about the whole idea. What if the stereotype is true that things go stale and we are one of the 70% of divorces and I lost some of my shit.
@Deleted User I thought about that man, but her parents are edging her as well for us to marry, drives me bonkers.
@Blake4014 are you christian?
I love her but man, the risk and overthinking shit really does get to me. I dunno, some advice is "just do it" and deal with it as it comes, and not on "what ifs" seemed good advice.
She's worried you'll cheat on her when she's older
@Blake4014 if you're worried she's gonna change, you don't trust her. if you don't trust her it's not gonna last, if it's not gonna last get that seed in her quick. lmao
@Blake4014 marriage won't improve the relationship, you will still have to work at it just like when you're dating.
Do you want to be with her for the rest of your life @Blake4014 ?
Get her pregnant first, then commit.
Its high enough I mean most people in UK dont get married anymore because of it.
yeh THAT is what makes me nervous too, its almost a cliche stereotype these days that marriage ruins and goes stale after a while @Deleted User
Scares me to shit.
man up. do it or don't.
Then marry her
@Wesker Im worried about her going off me, getting bored, or something, I dunno.
People will always change over time and so will you
I guess so man, thanks for your advice. everyone.
WHo cares she might have the same fears but if she feels just like you in wanting to be with you for the rest of her life then go for it
@Blake4014 marriage won't affect the staleness. It will probably go stale anyway if you don't marry.
You just both have to decide as a couple that creating a family is more important than your individual happiness, because you will both be unhappy at times.
yeh man, lots of contradicting but good thoughts insights here thank you good bros before hoes crew! 😄
it is logical from her perspective to want a commitment
Just go for it
I'm slightly leaning towards "just do it" atm
What othe relationship that you want to be life lasting would you lose because of it?
Tell her you will marry her if she gets pregnant.
Then she can get off the pill.
If the answer is none and you think shes the one to spend the rest of your life with then just go for it
Get her off the fucking pill
Now
Might backfire @Trommm I dunno, her parents are religious so they'd be outraged I think, but then again its a good calulated risk to take.
Stupid boomer
lol yeh might try that first.
There is no, "the one". All women take effort, time, money, etc. Find one that you're willing to reproduce with then put in the effort. You can't think about happiness, because you won't be.
I wont be happy? lol
scary Trommm
When I asked my bro, he said "Freedom is overrated, commit" lol
Stop taking advice from people on discord