Message from @Beemann
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I can relate, @Salacious Swanky Cat
My dad used to beat the shit out of my mom and younger brother but not me. I'm talking broken ribs and fingers and not allowed to go see a doctor. That screwed with me
@Beemann yeah. It wasn’t all bad. It was just enough crap to mess with my head some. My situation is still far more preferable to the other awful things that could have happened.
@Deleted User that is terrifying.
I'm very lucky I found such an amazing woman. I'm pretty sure I'm extremely predisposed to being able to just take being in such a relationship like my mother was.
I have dependent personality disorder and I can very very easily seeing myself convincing myself that I deserved it or something
Obvi knowing if half the battle but still
Yeah. I know what you mean. I would say the root of my self confidence issues comes from my dad openly expressing disappointment in me for random things and my stepdad being emotional distant. I felt rejected by both of them. It sucked. Nowhere close to physical abuse though, so I don’t really like to bring it up much.
I'm always baffled to see people do things on the list of 'this is what you really don't do if you want your kids to not be really fucked up and hate you.'
Like it's really jacked up to blame your kids for your lot in life, but it's even worse to let them know that you blame them.
At the end of the day they are just selfish
The guy I consider my kids' grandpa isn't related to them at all, he just happens to be the one person that was part of my ex's family, legally or biologically that wasn't a total shitbag to her.
He was the one that raised her from fifteen on for no reason that I can discern.
Anyway, his brother is who I was describing.
It sucks, because he seems like a decent enough guy, except between his mom babying him all his life and his wife leaving him for another woman, he's been dealt a pretty crappy hand.
The problem is that at least some of the time, he takes it out on his daughter.
I find that parents who spoil their kids are also acting selfishy. Because they either want their kids to like them or they don't want to do the hard things due to lazyness
Being a good parent is hard work
too many people give 0 fucks as long as their own kids are safe basically
and then that lack of regard for other people is passed down
the one that always pisses me off is when people only pay attention to school zones until their kids are dropped off
"my child has been secured? Time to punch it"
suddenly 40, 50, 60 is okay in a school zone
Yeah. Some people do that.
it's like that parent with the shitty lying kid who always believes their kid over any other form of evidence
I hate that too. My parents never did that. If someone told my parents I did something, I’d be grounded that night. Lol
Wow, deep discussion guys. One thing I am trying to understand about people is what drives them in parenting? Do they put in conscious effort when they reward/punish their kid with some kind of plan, or is it just an outpouring of unconscious responses to certain behavior broadly
Because I swear, if its conscious, safe to say we all suck lol
I think it’s both for some parents. You can’t predict how offhand remarks affect kids.
Children are irrational.
I think the most important thing to understand about parenting is how badly children look for a way to live, an alpha that has a plan. If a guy just mans the fuck up and takes care of business, acts honorably, everything just falls into place
It seems simple minded, but a strong good man solves most problems
The Sunrise Movement, a Blue Wave and Demands for a Green New Deal
https://www.greentechmedia.com/articles/read/the-sunrise-movement-a-blue-wave-and-demands-for-a-green-new-deal
Holy crap. That stupid woman is everywhere.
There's a point to that
this is Sargon's fault for refusing to rape her: https://www.theguardian.com/education/2018/nov/08/teach-schoolgirls-about-orgasms-says-labour-mp-jess-phillips
@Agent Smith You can't just blame him man! Its everyone's fault who said they wouldn't.
heh
*She believes educating children about healthy relationships and their anatomy will reduce the risk of violence against women: “To liberate women and end violence is to break down the culture of power imbalance. Let’s stop people feeling ashamed.”*
What?
Why do people vote for this person?
Same reason San Fransisco Democrats get reelected, I assume.