Hey, if it helps you that's awesome

Instead of dudes looking at porn for hours

Well that's the thing right

That used to be the system and then people started shortcutting it

I have hope gen z will right the ship and marrying young.

I married at 22

uwu

30.

Too many people in my age group raised by divorced parents kind of ruined the idea of marriage for everyone in high school and then it takes a decade for us all to realise that it wasn't marriage that was the problem, it was the people in the relationships who couldn't put in the work.

My parents got divorced (for a good reason) and once I got over a few issues I had my main takeaway was that I wanted to be careful about who I spent the rest of my life with tbh

I got married at I think twenty five, divorced three years later.

https://www.detroitnews.com/story/news/local/detroit-city/2018/11/20/judge-dismisses-key-count-genital-mutilation-case/2066855002

https://www.faithwire.com/2018/11/14/celine-dion-launches-new-gender-neutral-clothing-line-for-children-with-creepy-ad/

The funny thing was, you know how they say that most marriages don't last five years? I viewed that as some kind of magical number, where if you got past that, you were good.

So I didn't really do anything to solve the problems that we had. That said, that relationship was so toxic that I don't think the problems could have been solved, but there were certainly things I could have done better.

It did cure me of my fear of dying alone though, so there is that.

@wolfman1911 some of my Mates from the school days were talking about this last week and that was our experience but there's definitely other reasons. We were all barely formed humans back then so who knows how good our memories are.

Life. Experiences will differ

^^^

My parents got divorced when I was young. For a period of time I thought something was wrong with me because I have the similar personality traits as my dad. He’s been divorced twice. Didn’t help that my mom sometimes off handedly said I was just like my dad when I frustrated her.

I can relate, @Salacious Swanky Cat

My dad used to beat the shit out of my mom and younger brother but not me. I'm talking broken ribs and fingers and not allowed to go see a doctor. That screwed with me

@Beemann yeah. It wasn’t all bad. It was just enough crap to mess with my head some. My situation is still far more preferable to the other awful things that could have happened.

@Deleted User that is terrifying.

I'm very lucky I found such an amazing woman. I'm pretty sure I'm extremely predisposed to being able to just take being in such a relationship like my mother was.

I have dependent personality disorder and I can very very easily seeing myself convincing myself that I deserved it or something

Obvi knowing if half the battle but still

Yeah. I know what you mean. I would say the root of my self confidence issues comes from my dad openly expressing disappointment in me for random things and my stepdad being emotional distant. I felt rejected by both of them. It sucked. Nowhere close to physical abuse though, so I don’t really like to bring it up much.

I'm always baffled to see people do things on the list of 'this is what you really don't do if you want your kids to not be really fucked up and hate you.'

Like it's really jacked up to blame your kids for your lot in life, but it's even worse to let them know that you blame them.

At the end of the day they are just selfish

The guy I consider my kids' grandpa isn't related to them at all, he just happens to be the one person that was part of my ex's family, legally or biologically that wasn't a total shitbag to her.

He was the one that raised her from fifteen on for no reason that I can discern.

Anyway, his brother is who I was describing.

It sucks, because he seems like a decent enough guy, except between his mom babying him all his life and his wife leaving him for another woman, he's been dealt a pretty crappy hand.

The problem is that at least some of the time, he takes it out on his daughter.

I find that parents who spoil their kids are also acting selfishy. Because they either want their kids to like them or they don't want to do the hard things due to lazyness

Being a good parent is hard work

too many people give 0 fucks as long as their own kids are safe basically

and then that lack of regard for other people is passed down

the one that always pisses me off is when people only pay attention to school zones until their kids are dropped off

"my child has been secured? Time to punch it"