Message from @A. Spader

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2019-09-30 18:01:50 UTC  

fr tho

2019-09-30 18:02:50 UTC  

Yeah, it's getting more frequent that I'm reminded how fortunate I am to have a mom and dad who are still married and love me and my brother.

2019-09-30 18:02:58 UTC  

amen

2019-09-30 18:03:55 UTC  

Yeah Im really bothered by this whole promotion that you dont need to be married or in a stable relationship *before* you decide to have kids

2019-09-30 18:04:50 UTC  

the thing is tho, culturally the position we're all espousing is very much in the minority. My sister, with basically the same upbringing, is of the 'oh you think I can't just do my career and all this stuff?'

2019-09-30 18:04:54 UTC  

Obviously marriage isnt a guarantee (my parents were married when they had me) but its proven to significantly increase the likelyhood of kids succeeding later in life

2019-09-30 18:05:19 UTC  

true

2019-09-30 18:06:15 UTC  

Fucking feminism ruining everything

2019-09-30 18:06:21 UTC  

Smdh

2019-09-30 18:06:51 UTC  

They legit ruined homemaking for everyone

2019-09-30 18:08:08 UTC  

which is insane too

2019-09-30 18:08:38 UTC  

raising children properly is more important to the health of both the family and the republic than 90% of jobs right now

2019-09-30 18:09:03 UTC  

Did they actually ruin it or just turn women away from it? I can only assume you can still be a perfectly successful homemaker

2019-09-30 18:09:49 UTC  

@C1PHER they ruined it in the sense that they turned women away from it, by shaming those who wish to be one

2019-09-30 18:10:15 UTC  

you definitely can, but you're swimming upcurrent of the culture, which is very difficult to do

2019-09-30 18:10:30 UTC  

That's kind of what I figured

2019-09-30 18:10:52 UTC  

both of my sisters view homemaking with disdain, even though my mom was a homemaker and homeschooled

2019-09-30 18:11:34 UTC  

Because now (and Im speaking as a woman myself who grew up in a very liberal culture) its extremely frowned upon and you are seen as a lazy, unambitious leach

2019-09-30 18:11:46 UTC  

^ that

2019-09-30 18:11:50 UTC  

Damn

2019-09-30 18:12:10 UTC  

one of my sisters was genuinely offended when I said if I got married I'd want my wife to be a homemaker

2019-09-30 18:12:40 UTC  

again, this from a theologically conservative household where both my parents were present

2019-09-30 18:12:59 UTC  

And there's this immense pressure that you need to be successful in the workfield and make roughly the same as your male partner/spouse

2019-09-30 18:13:05 UTC  

fighting the cultural winds is a hard thing to do

2019-09-30 18:13:32 UTC  

I believe blonde talked about this in several of her videos

2019-09-30 18:14:23 UTC  

And now I'm seeing the "women can't find men to marry who make as much money as they do" crap circulating again

2019-09-30 18:14:42 UTC  

yeah that shit is hilarious

2019-09-30 18:14:56 UTC  

> men are poor, women hit hardest

2019-09-30 18:14:57 UTC  

Me and my husband made roughly the same before he joined law enforcement

2019-09-30 18:16:00 UTC  

Sorry to backtrack a little bit, but assuming you desire to be a homemaker yourself, what are you studying at school?

2019-09-30 18:16:22 UTC  

You're fine.
Im studying criminal justice

2019-09-30 18:16:29 UTC  

lit

2019-09-30 18:16:35 UTC  

I'm minoring in that

2019-09-30 18:17:00 UTC  

Im specializing in forensic science for my bachelors

2019-09-30 18:17:46 UTC  

So technically I am a homemaker...but also a full time student

2019-09-30 18:18:37 UTC  

I mean

2019-09-30 18:18:41 UTC  

if it works it works

2019-09-30 18:18:58 UTC  

I quit my job so I could actually see my husband and take care of the things at home while he works

2019-09-30 18:19:05 UTC  

nice

2019-09-30 18:19:22 UTC  

that is actually quite admirable

2019-09-30 18:19:32 UTC  

You have to work as a team