I ain't discussing with him anymore

Thats the right move

Anyone else have their significant other put them in damned if you do, damned if you dont positions?

Not really, but thats only because she knows she cant stop me from doing my thing

*casually tags her*

@Scr0m yeah. So just shows the better position you want, and dont apologize. Have back bone. It's a sub concious test mate

Be the head of household.

They fuck better when you do

^ Facts

I gotcha. That makes sense. @mcguyver123

Girlfriend has just been doing it and fucking putting me in shitty spots where I end up having to do something or else it's an argument for the night and being bothered

@Scr0m-argument over something dumb

I've been married for 3 years, with the same girl for 8. At some point I just started telling her the argument is dumb and isnt worth it. Ask if theres something wrong when you're both calm, tell her you've noticed shes been on your ass more recently, and let her know neither of yall need that and youd rather talk it out.

Otherwise everything else is theatrics

Yeah you're not wrong, that's good advice

Shes getting something out of arguing that she doesnt get when not arguing

@Scr0m

Ultimatums never work. either you're upset or she is. There has to be communication, compromise and a space for you both to talk freely without judgement.

You're not always going to agree with your partner or get along or have the same general consensus. That's normal, because no one is exactly alike all the time.

However, you need to respect your partners hard boundaries. If they tell you no or that they dont want to do something, then that's a no and it should not be pushed because that leads to resentment. The same should apply to her. She should respect your hard boundries without question.

If shes giving you ultimatums then shes insecure about something or the other or someone's in her ear making her insecure or frankly shes just trying to control something she shouldn't be.

Relationships should be 50-50, but sometimes need to be 80-20 to account for good and bad days.

You and your significant other need to sit down and have a conversation about what's going on. It's not going to be easy or quick but it has to happen.

PS I am @thedarkness05 's girlfriend

Told y'all she was in here

You know how I am, and she deals with that, so there's more than a kernel of truth to it

@jecc13

Boundaries are greatly important. Sometimes she just does not respect the "no" for an answer. It was really unimportant but this morning I was leaving for work and she asked me to get her ice water. She also has a habit of asking me for my water because she doesnt snag any when we go downstairs to eat but i digress. I told her no for the ice water because i already had a few things this morning to do and dont like that to be interrupted. I know it's really a minute thing but the reality is just like you said. Boundaries need to be respected and without it, it causes resentment.

I do plan on talking to her about a few different things that need to happen but I'm not exactly the best face to face explaining emotionally related things

@Scr0m nah chief, I get it. @jecc13 asks me for ice water all the time and it gets more than a bit annoying at times. But you do need those boundaries and spaces where you can be you

I personally need time to exist by myself since my girl is always in my space and around. It's why I tend to go to work like an hr prior to shift starting so I can be alone

I feel that

@Scr0m set boundaries
@Deadbeat Radio idk man...got any advice for the guy?

@Scr0m#0699 @thedarkness05 and I had to have that conversation and it wasnt pleasant for me to hear but it was for the best. [For both water and space]

I think that communication on what you need day to day is important, some days @thedarkness05 wants to hangout and do whatever but then theres days where he has to hang with his goons or play dnd or do his thing and then I do my thing.

First time I see my grandparents that sad. Hard to cope with the ideia you have to burry your own son

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6UxF14vPM0

for anyone who needs a little inspiration today

Not really a problem but uhhh

Can someone send me the original picture?
My google is being mega gay

Okay boys

Fuckin question for you

Tryna figure out how to deal with this one

So I'm way into the fitness thing

I'm 5'10" 179, 17%bf, play hockey, eat well, run my own business, shits dope, I regularly defuse attempts from girls hitting on me and shit cuz I'm married

Wife is overweight, depressed, not into hobbies, and it's frustrating

I am becoming less attracted to her over time

She cannot maintain any kind of self discipline in regulating her diet or working out regularly. Meanwhile I'm over here in the gym 3x a week and on the ice 2x a week playing hockey

You’re gonna need a lotta lye and trash bags