then detach, you dont have to be so dependent on others

Besides, friends and girlfriends will just get in your way.

I need to give myself a massive amount of self validation to counter all the put downs

It’s really not easy

Meaning?

Like to counter the belief that I’m not good enough

Or things will never work

If you're not good enough then improve yourself

but you should most importantly be more independent

Self doubt you know

that will make you stronger

I get second guessed a lot when I know my intuition is usually right

So frustrating

Psychological abuse runs rampant in the world

then fight back, if you get second guessed, then do the same with them.

The only way to combat it is to be fierce

It’s worse than physical abuse imo because you can’t see or measure it easily

but not always ruthless

Duh

defend yourself more

I know what you mean. The moment you don't follow others they treat you as a lesser.

it’s difficult..

Dont give into the stupid temptation. Following others is a waste of time.

It is. The golden ticket is being stoic and content in your own pursuits, especially in the face of others.

There’s so much pain to deal with

It sucks that men have to follow stoicism when women get feminism

Maybe it’s time to endorse meninism lol

Life comes with a lot of pain either way. Its not the pain you have to get away from, you have to get your freedoms.

Not total freedom, but freedom to stop being so dependent on others

You notice in spiritual beliefs, they always talk about the sacred feminine

Don't rely on politics for self-esteem.

But there is a sacred masculine also

Please no.

Thats because chicks are awesome, most gods are male I think

Like the christian god

Get over the gender roles.

Read Max Stirner.

Gender roles are necessary, but focus on yourself more.

I’m not saying gender exactly, just the double standard

Fair

Who cares? You'd be better off alone