I've had two friends opt out mate. Even with good support networks, sometimes it isnt good enough. Society is breaking men. Best we can do is remind kings what they are. Build the community around us that supports one another and out needs as men.

@Hellhound6 takes me a quart of jaeger lol

Was that too pushy

@Fe4r_incarnate you saw a strong man have a break down. I wouldn't blame you for sending that.

@Fe4r_incarnate again, just talk to him tomorrow

This guy is one of my best friends. We've been bois for a while. I just have never seen that side of him and it hurts me. I hope he isn't depressed

Hears the thing, because you cry n shit doesnt make him weak. If he lets it control him, that's the thing

Remind him that he's strong

@mcguyver123 also, agreed

Now or once he is sober

Sober

Let it cool down a little first

@Fe4r_incarnate sober

Also @Fe4r_incarnate you didn't do anything wrong. You dont have to apologize. Just be there for your bro

@thedarkness05this

But what if I did? What if by not taking him seriously right away I genuinely hurt him?

Nah dude

Trust me, you'd know

Nah man, just acknowledge that you didnt at first. But if he needs you, he can come to you to help deal with it. Straight talk, no bullshit

Also, his dad telling me to just talk to him tomorrow kinda makes me think this has happened before, but behind closed doors. I just can't help but feel responsible. We shouldn't have been talking about the military at all.

Nah

If you avoid it. It can be just as bad

@Fe4r_incarnate dude if he was talking it's fine. He was talkin. If he didnt wanna talk hed have said so.

@Hellhound6 that too

It's one of those things where as long as you're there when they open up

Don't coddle him, but listen

Its a balance, but you'll get it. And it does seem like you show genuine concern for him. He's lucky to have you on his side

Agreed

Directly confronting him about what happend and just tryna be there for him.

I only came here because I know its a chat he isn't in, I don't want him to know I talked about it but I just genuinely have no idea how to handle this. His dad seemed to completely understand my other friend and I, but his step mom seemed mad at us... she was also a little drunk... its just weird. Never experienced that before... my brother has ptsd from his 2 tours in iraq but its a lot different for him. Its less emotional, more just brain damage. Like he forgets shit all the time and stuff. I have never seen one of my close friends break down like this.

@Fe4r_incarnate it will be ok man.

Find a way to destress enough to sleep, and approach problem tomorrow.

Well thanks for the advice guys... if theres anything else just @ me please.. I don't know how to handle this

We've got you man

Yeah, we look out for our own, same as you do

Final question, would it be bad if i messaged one of his parents to apologize to them, and explain that I had no idea? Because I don't want them to think I don't care about their son or that I somehow purposely set him off?

Id just go to homie first

@Fe4r_incarnate fuck the parents, just talk to him.

Let it breathe till tomorrow homie. Then talk to your boy

Nah, this about him, not the family. Real talk, most families just try to hide it and act Like everything is ok

Okay.. i just hope his stepmom doesn't hate me now lol

@Fe4r_incarnate stop worrying about what the parents think. You're not engaged to em, itll be ok. Destress. Seriously. If you can, add that to a list of things to work on. Active destressing. A little off subject but it helps in situations like this because you can think clearer if you arent having a mild panic reaction.