So I need some advice because I’m caught in the middle of some shit in my personal life

So basically my dad, my girl, and I all like the same things, and he just wants to spend time with me, but if I say that to my girlfriend then she gets mad and we start to fight

. . . what

how long yall been dating

?

For example my dad asked me to see 1917 on Friday but I told my girl that I would take her to see the movie when I told him that he got mad., and he said that we stopped spending time together since I started dating this girl

And it’s been 10months

right

She’s clingy and normally I don’t mind that and I enjoy the attention but I’m just stuck in a lose lose situation

yeah I feel you. . . and there's no way to all go together?

There is. The problem is my dad said he misses spending time with just me

I figured one of them was in that camp. .

There's gotta be a compromise or something that'd work but - I'm typically pretty uncompromising

if it was me ( and I had a solid relationship with my family ) I'd honestly tell her "" look, that's my dad, okay? ""

I know 10 months is a long time, but until you guys are *married* or at it for a few years. . . idk. . . I would just assume family takes precedence.

I'm having a similar issue just getting *alone* time right now - and every time I bring up "" yes - but I need my space - and if I don't get it - this doesn't work "", I get back sassed or am the bad guy too. . .

I would prioritize what or which you prefer ( and when ) and then just try to structure it so that you're in a position to pick ( and hopefully cooly explain ) to whom why you're going where, when, with whoever

and hopefully they'll understand s:

it sounds like he doesn't know how important she is and vice versa

Yea I just think I gotta find some hobbies that I can do with my dad that my girlfriend doesn’t like

The problem is she like everything I do.

that's a solid plan - but the movie situation still sucks

Yea that’s the hardest one

That’s why normally I just don’t go to the movies

It’s just a rough year so far, and I gotta figure it out

I have an appointment to talk with a neuro doc so I can try to figure out what’s going on in my head. But it’s not until March

Shit. . . and it's unfair ( and expensive ) to go see it with someone and then have seen it before with the other. . .

You'll figure it out king. But family usually comes first. Girls can come and go, but blood is there till you die

I feel like you need to have a conversation with your girl and tell her that it would be nice some times to spend time with your dad alone

Yea i just have to figure out how to have a talk like that and not fight about it

Or maybe do it when she goes to visit her fam or something

Yea maybe, see the problem is we’re both no where near financially stable enough to by a house yet so we just kinda bounce between my parents house and her parents house

And I’m truly in love with her I’m positive I’m going to marry her when I graduate paramedic school.

I just don’t want to start any fights

I know my guy. But you do need boundaries. It helps build the relationship or else you smother each other

Yea I get that

I just don’t know how to have that talk with her

Listen guy, my girl gets it. Pic related. She got it after a little bit. Come in soft, but remain firm. Tell her that its not because you dont like her, but that you do need your own space to catch a breather. Thats why I carve out time for myself, my hobbies, and my boys

Ok

So I don’t want to sound like I’m making shit up and whoring for attention, but so I need to help my girl get some hobbies and friends.

She has like me and 1 other person as her friend

So maybe if I helped her get some friends then it would be easier for her to understand that I need personal space

Bruh no one here is an attention whore. We all need help time to time. And my girl struggles with her own hobbies and friends too.