Message from @INNYGMATYK
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hell yeah, king, good sex is one of the keys to a healthy marriage
Yeah it's been lacking mostly because of my apathy towards it and that's my fault
Noice
go getter
Yee yee
Make a good dinner first
Give her flowers and all
Cliche, but it works
Hey man, good on you for recognizing an issue and working to resolve it. We proud of you kind. Now go an break a headboard for us
So I need some advice because I’m caught in the middle of some shit in my personal life
So basically my dad, my girl, and I all like the same things, and he just wants to spend time with me, but if I say that to my girlfriend then she gets mad and we start to fight
. . . what
how long yall been dating
?
For example my dad asked me to see 1917 on Friday but I told my girl that I would take her to see the movie when I told him that he got mad., and he said that we stopped spending time together since I started dating this girl
And it’s been 10months
right
She’s clingy and normally I don’t mind that and I enjoy the attention but I’m just stuck in a lose lose situation
yeah I feel you. . . and there's no way to all go together?
There is. The problem is my dad said he misses spending time with just me
There's gotta be a compromise or something that'd work but - I'm typically pretty uncompromising
if it was me ( and I had a solid relationship with my family ) I'd honestly tell her "" look, that's my dad, okay? ""
I know 10 months is a long time, but until you guys are *married* or at it for a few years. . . idk. . . I would just assume family takes precedence.
I'm having a similar issue just getting *alone* time right now - and every time I bring up "" yes - but I need my space - and if I don't get it - this doesn't work "", I get back sassed or am the bad guy too. . .
I would prioritize what or which you prefer ( and when ) and then just try to structure it so that you're in a position to pick ( and hopefully cooly explain ) to whom why you're going where, when, with whoever
and hopefully they'll understand s:
it sounds like he doesn't know how important she is and vice versa
Yea I just think I gotta find some hobbies that I can do with my dad that my girlfriend doesn’t like
The problem is she like everything I do.
that's a solid plan - but the movie situation still sucks
Yea that’s the hardest one
That’s why normally I just don’t go to the movies
It’s just a rough year so far, and I gotta figure it out
I have an appointment to talk with a neuro doc so I can try to figure out what’s going on in my head. But it’s not until March
Shit. . . and it's unfair ( and expensive ) to go see it with someone and then have seen it before with the other. . .
You'll figure it out king. But family usually comes first. Girls can come and go, but blood is there till you die
I feel like you need to have a conversation with your girl and tell her that it would be nice some times to spend time with your dad alone
Yea i just have to figure out how to have a talk like that and not fight about it
Or maybe do it when she goes to visit her fam or something
Yea maybe, see the problem is we’re both no where near financially stable enough to by a house yet so we just kinda bounce between my parents house and her parents house
And I’m truly in love with her I’m positive I’m going to marry her when I graduate paramedic school.
I just don’t want to start any fights