Message from @Existance is pain
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that's a solid plan - but the movie situation still sucks
Yea that’s the hardest one
That’s why normally I just don’t go to the movies
It’s just a rough year so far, and I gotta figure it out
I have an appointment to talk with a neuro doc so I can try to figure out what’s going on in my head. But it’s not until March
Shit. . . and it's unfair ( and expensive ) to go see it with someone and then have seen it before with the other. . .
You'll figure it out king. But family usually comes first. Girls can come and go, but blood is there till you die
I feel like you need to have a conversation with your girl and tell her that it would be nice some times to spend time with your dad alone
Yea i just have to figure out how to have a talk like that and not fight about it
Or maybe do it when she goes to visit her fam or something
Yea maybe, see the problem is we’re both no where near financially stable enough to by a house yet so we just kinda bounce between my parents house and her parents house
And I’m truly in love with her I’m positive I’m going to marry her when I graduate paramedic school.
I just don’t want to start any fights
I know my guy. But you do need boundaries. It helps build the relationship or else you smother each other
Yea I get that
I just don’t know how to have that talk with her
Listen guy, my girl gets it. Pic related. She got it after a little bit. Come in soft, but remain firm. Tell her that its not because you dont like her, but that you do need your own space to catch a breather. Thats why I carve out time for myself, my hobbies, and my boys
Ok
So I don’t want to sound like I’m making shit up and whoring for attention, but so I need to help my girl get some hobbies and friends.
She has like me and 1 other person as her friend
So maybe if I helped her get some friends then it would be easier for her to understand that I need personal space
Bruh no one here is an attention whore. We all need help time to time. And my girl struggles with her own hobbies and friends too.
But that is an exellent idea though
I just need to find somewhere to start
Try and find what shes into. Encourage her to try new things
@Existance is pain same issue on my end.
Introduce her to your friends women. Outside of that, her happiness isnt your responsibility. If you live trying to provide that for her, you will be unhappy
A local library is a good place, they always have activities to do
Maybe even introducing that reality to her may make her realize she needs to make efforts on her end.
Live for yourself. Once you're married, you're not obligated to provide happiness either. Happiness is the answer to one of the many purposes of life. That's her journey mate.
But spend time with your father. Her be damned, even if you love her, she will have to give you space.
Ok
Thank you all for the help
You trackin?
Trackin
No problem king. Were glad to help anytime
The answer to everything girl related is
Do what makes you better
Do what makes your life better as a whole
Girls are... Sort of inclined to meet your needs. So if you create a life for yourself, she will find purpose in being a part of that
You are the leader.
What do you so when your dying of migraine?
Holy gee it hurts
try to nut, that burst of dopamine should help alleviate the pain a bit enough for you to take a nap and rest