if it was me ( and I had a solid relationship with my family ) I'd honestly tell her "" look, that's my dad, okay? ""

I know 10 months is a long time, but until you guys are *married* or at it for a few years. . . idk. . . I would just assume family takes precedence.

I'm having a similar issue just getting *alone* time right now - and every time I bring up "" yes - but I need my space - and if I don't get it - this doesn't work "", I get back sassed or am the bad guy too. . .

I would prioritize what or which you prefer ( and when ) and then just try to structure it so that you're in a position to pick ( and hopefully cooly explain ) to whom why you're going where, when, with whoever

and hopefully they'll understand s:

it sounds like he doesn't know how important she is and vice versa

Yea I just think I gotta find some hobbies that I can do with my dad that my girlfriend doesn’t like

The problem is she like everything I do.

that's a solid plan - but the movie situation still sucks

Yea that’s the hardest one

That’s why normally I just don’t go to the movies

It’s just a rough year so far, and I gotta figure it out

I have an appointment to talk with a neuro doc so I can try to figure out what’s going on in my head. But it’s not until March

Shit. . . and it's unfair ( and expensive ) to go see it with someone and then have seen it before with the other. . .

You'll figure it out king. But family usually comes first. Girls can come and go, but blood is there till you die

I feel like you need to have a conversation with your girl and tell her that it would be nice some times to spend time with your dad alone

Yea i just have to figure out how to have a talk like that and not fight about it

Or maybe do it when she goes to visit her fam or something

Yea maybe, see the problem is we’re both no where near financially stable enough to by a house yet so we just kinda bounce between my parents house and her parents house

And I’m truly in love with her I’m positive I’m going to marry her when I graduate paramedic school.

I just don’t want to start any fights

I know my guy. But you do need boundaries. It helps build the relationship or else you smother each other

Yea I get that

I just don’t know how to have that talk with her

Listen guy, my girl gets it. Pic related. She got it after a little bit. Come in soft, but remain firm. Tell her that its not because you dont like her, but that you do need your own space to catch a breather. Thats why I carve out time for myself, my hobbies, and my boys

Ok

So I don’t want to sound like I’m making shit up and whoring for attention, but so I need to help my girl get some hobbies and friends.

She has like me and 1 other person as her friend

So maybe if I helped her get some friends then it would be easier for her to understand that I need personal space

Bruh no one here is an attention whore. We all need help time to time. And my girl struggles with her own hobbies and friends too.

But that is an exellent idea though

I just need to find somewhere to start

Try and find what shes into. Encourage her to try new things

@Existance is pain same issue on my end.

Introduce her to your friends women. Outside of that, her happiness isnt your responsibility. If you live trying to provide that for her, you will be unhappy

A local library is a good place, they always have activities to do

Maybe even introducing that reality to her may make her realize she needs to make efforts on her end.

Live for yourself. Once you're married, you're not obligated to provide happiness either. Happiness is the answer to one of the many purposes of life. That's her journey mate.

But spend time with your father. Her be damned, even if you love her, she will have to give you space.

Ok

Thank you all for the help

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No problem king. Were glad to help anytime

The answer to everything girl related is

Do what makes you better