Message from @Incursio
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It's realistic. There are things I wish I hadn't of done when I was younger.
I blame myself for everything
I feel like my parents would be more understanding if I was more open to them about being trans and shit when I was younger. Cuz my mom is like “I didn’t see any signs” and all that dumb shit
It's natural that people do stupid shit particularly when they're young. Then they learn from it and move on.
It's the hardest for parents when their child is transgender. It takes a lot of time for them.
Like, I’m not sure how my parents view me nowadays. I feel like what they’ve said to me in the past distorts my reality of how I think they view me currently.
Maybe your parents would of had a lot more time to adjust if you told them when you were young. Don't blame yourself for that, being transgender is a hard thing to go through, and when you're young, you're still trying to figure yourself out and may prolong telling your parents because of the fear of reaction.
if you told them when you were young they would have thought it was a phase y0
you're doing fine
y0
And I don’t feel too comfortable asking them because more often than not when I bring it up it ends up with me being very depressed and them telling me I make everyone around me miserable by focusing on this one thing.
This is depressing
You know, some parents may view you different obviously, most do. I mean for however many years you were their little boy/girl. It's a common thing with depression to set in. That's not right for them to tell you that. They are the ones who should be helping you. I think the best thing for you to do is work on some courage, give them some information about this.
Give them something to read, and I think you need to help them understand this process a little better, all the while trying to find someone who can help you if they can;t.
People fear what they don't really understand.
What should I give them to read?
Hmm
Not sure where they are in terms of understanding
About 2.5 years
Don’t know where they are in terms of understanding trans people. My dad thinks there’s more than 2 genders but tells me I can learn to live with what I have and that hormones is just like a normal girl getting a boob job
That's quite few. It takes a while longer. Some parents it takes longer or shorter. It all depends. But the more information you can provide them with the better.
Do you take any anti-depressants?
The communist manifesto is pretty good
No I don’t. Been trying to schedule with a psychiatrist for months but things have been troublesome in terms of scheduling
You will need to probably start with telling them, that this is something very serious for you and that you are not the only one with this. It's not as simple as saying "just learn to live with what you have".... that's like telling a depressed person "just get over it already"
In terms of scheduling, that is understandable, lol I have problems with scheduling a psychiatrist. I still live with my mom and it's real busy around here so.
and of course there are multiple other things but
It's a good step that you do in fact have a psychiatrist in hand. I'm not actually sure of your situation but think about what may be interrupting the scheduling. Thing about what may be the best time when you think nothing is going on.
It all sounds simple, but take notes of what your parents are doing throughout the week.
I’ve been trying, hopefully things will settle down after the holidays when my dad isn’t as busy
True, the holidays are crazy busy.
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Henlo
Any idea on some reading material?
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