Message from @Deleted User

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2018-10-13 12:45:36 UTC  

I guess I would need more parenting experience to answer that question well. Lol I have no idea.

2018-10-13 12:46:41 UTC  

I am a product of a single mom with limited dad experience and yeah I have a few rough edges but mostly decent person. Single mom isnt Ideal but it isnt a doomed situation if mom is responsible and puts her kids in front of everything else.

2018-10-13 12:47:19 UTC  

Oh snap

2018-10-13 12:47:32 UTC  

I didnt tell you about my foster "cousin" 😬

2018-10-13 12:47:54 UTC  

Ooooo!!! 😯

2018-10-13 12:49:23 UTC  

I like your answer as well, btw. But now that you are older and much wiser, what advice would you give your Mom as she was raising younger you?

2018-10-13 12:51:35 UTC  

"Stop blaming dad for everything"

2018-10-13 12:51:44 UTC  

Would probably have helped a lot.

2018-10-13 12:51:48 UTC  

My thought is still the same, mentorship from an example of a healthy relationship can tip the scales towards seeking a healthy relationship, instead of only having the example of a single parent. Also i think it is important to be honest with your children, that single parenting is less than ideal, instead of putting yourself up as a hero, as many single moms do these days.

2018-10-13 12:52:06 UTC  

I can super relate to that @Deleted User

2018-10-13 12:52:13 UTC  

Both with her focus and efficiency of raising us and with the emotional baggage my brother and I had because of it.

2018-10-13 12:52:27 UTC  

I'm sure most single mom raised kids can.

2018-10-13 12:53:05 UTC  

my parents are still married.

2018-10-13 12:54:45 UTC  

I think she would have left if she succeeded at turning us against our father though. He wasn't involved very much in day to day stuff, and she tried to make it out like he was the source of all negativity in the house.

2018-10-13 12:55:00 UTC  

Don't tell your dad, or he will get mad at me was a common phrase

2018-10-13 12:57:14 UTC  

Ahhh

2018-10-13 12:59:07 UTC  

his best example to me was keeping a marriage was of utmost imprtance, even if it turns into something you didn't expect. You have kids, its not about you anymore.

2018-10-13 13:00:02 UTC  

Yeah it kinda sucks if marriage turns sour and you only stick around for the kids though.

2018-10-13 13:00:17 UTC  

For me I would stick around until kids left house. Then ciao.

2018-10-13 13:00:26 UTC  

Its worse to disolve the marriage, imo.

2018-10-13 13:00:30 UTC  

Eh

2018-10-13 13:00:49 UTC  

I disagree. Toxic relationship between parents probably bad example than a complete lack of relationship.

2018-10-13 13:00:51 UTC  

I agree with the last sentence.

2018-10-13 13:00:58 UTC  

Once the kids are grown, cya

2018-10-13 13:01:02 UTC  

Lol

2018-10-13 13:01:37 UTC  

Well it doesn't matter if that is the end thing. Honestly that's your responsibility whether you like your wife/baby mama or not.

2018-10-13 13:02:12 UTC  

he's a man of principle, if to a fault. You start something, you finish it. You dont get to back down because it got sour.

2018-10-13 13:02:54 UTC  

Yeah that is Fair.

2018-10-13 13:03:03 UTC  

You gotta be. "Man up" so to speak.

2018-10-13 13:04:10 UTC  

A bit of advice would have been good though, something along the lines of "don't marry a woman like your mother"

2018-10-13 13:04:28 UTC  

But speaking ill, even honestly, of any family member was blasphemy.

2018-10-13 13:05:25 UTC  

pointing out things wrong with anything was blasphemy, tbh.

2018-10-13 14:23:26 UTC  

Wonderful discourse, gentlemen!! 😀

2018-10-13 19:30:20 UTC  

What attributes do you think a man should possess?

2018-10-13 19:31:36 UTC  

A job

2018-10-13 19:31:56 UTC  

Money

2018-10-13 19:32:00 UTC  

And sperm

2018-10-13 19:32:35 UTC  

Ambition. Conviction and bravery to defend values. Everything else follows that.

2018-10-13 19:32:48 UTC  

And not to be picky but i also like a sense of humor

2018-10-13 19:34:28 UTC  

I'd rather be a smart man than a funny one. But if brainless humor is your thing, by all means. 😬

2018-10-13 19:36:43 UTC  

Id way rather humor. No 1 likes a know it all.