If I have to ask you your pronouns . . . I'm just going to skip pronouns all together. Of course they find it offensive when someone doesn't use pronouns and only uses their name, too.
On a random, sort of related note, I read a book series where the author was actively trying to protect the gender of one of her characters who was pretending to be a different gender some of the time. For almost three books in a four book series, she didn't use a pronoun once when referring to this character. It was only in the epilogue of the third book that she revealed, quite blatantly that this character was a woman (who by the way never dressed as a man, but instead had a different name she used in certain circumstances, when she was either not around or pretending she was not around . . . she had three different personas, one male, one female, and one real . . . also female . . . in the books. She dropped both of the fake ones by the end of the fourth book). It was funny to read the author's note in the third book where the author pointed out that she never used pronouns for this character and I am looking through random spots in the book and realizing, she's right. Kind of fun.
