Message from @isoboto
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when people don't discipline they don't care about their kids, when they discipline to harshly it's usually out anger and not love.
Self-discipline and actions have consequences style discipline can teach important lessons, but a lack of parental discipline is not the creation of every problem child.
A child who lacks respect for authority is much bigger than didn't get spanked enough.
Too broad of a statement to make. Disagree. But you do you.
okay bud
I think this is really more it. We have a crisis of the heart right now. People are turning to self or other people for moral guidance and meaning and when you focus on self, your heart will misguide you. you can justify anything if you turn morality into 'what serves me.' Parents who don't show their children they're important by sending them out of the house with school and after school things and make it obvious they 'just want the kids gone' are teaching their kids to also not cherish them -- and we end up with adults who want to put their parents in elder care as soon as possible and want little to do with one another.
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Wait... what's the topic here?
Started with being about kids being jerks to their parents.
Alright. 🙂
Yeah, and it's a serious problem. Too often is the attitude, to scold and discipline, rather than sit down and teach. Most parents seems to think "teaching" just encompasses the other listening and accepting what they say. Resultingly they are very impersonal towards their kids, leaving them effectively fostered in their own "home." We have a generation of parents who scold, scorn, and belittle instead of listening, hearing, and teaching. It's no wonder the youth often feel forsaken. It doesn't help that older folks tend to dig their heels in when challenged...
Yup. One of the recurring attitudes in the book on the criminal mind I'm reading is that, regardless of whether the doctor was interviewing a teenager or an adult, they talked about, "why should I have to listen to xyz? why should I do something I don't want to do?" Every time, it's about benefiting the self and not thinking outside of the self. An adult or authority figure ONLY disciplining will not break through the mind of helping someone understand the choice to serve and love others.
I think that's also a missing component. That love is a choice we make for those around us, whether they please us or not, whether it helps us or not. It's not an easy thing to solve, but an attitude of blame and power dynamics will... definitely not help.
It's tough love without the love. As one grows the set of gloves, so to speak, that they are treated with do not change. Hypocritical expectations also play into this a lot, demanding adult treatment while giving out kid treatment. It's a miracle we even get "functioning" adults out of such a process. *Raise adults, not children* is the mantra all too often left by the wayside
they also forgot no-parent homes tend to do worse than 1-parent homes <:CursedEmoji:763140778770825247>
Merry Christmas yall
to you too!
Lmao they don’t have BLM on the court anymore in the NBA
wonder why it's only during an election
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Wait till they find out president elect scratch and sniff isn't really president elect.
Wait until they find out that he’s really really racist and supported segregation
But at least he isn’t Orange
They will still complain that they are oppressed
MERRY CHRISTMASSSSSSSS
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You, too, bud! Have a very wonderful holiday weekend!
Anyone see that car bomb
yeah. it's on the news
Just watched a video on gun control
It said why are there no grenade killings
Like this is why they don’t you grenades
The RV Bomb in Tennessee?
Yeah
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*spreads more heart*
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@djream Do you know the case of Timothy Joseph Boomer vs. The State of Michigan?
I do not
and I'm a Michiganite. I'm about to get schooled, ain't I? 😜