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2018-07-20 04:45:11 UTC  

that is true so in a sense it is implied

2018-07-20 04:45:14 UTC  

Sometimes he'd talk to me

2018-07-20 04:45:17 UTC  

what Schedrevka said

2018-07-20 04:45:30 UTC  

I know he's sad

2018-07-20 04:45:45 UTC  

But he actually works through it

2018-07-20 04:46:06 UTC  

But if it's only ever implied to 'toughen up to use that as fuel to better yourself' and never outright stated then people won't know why it is they're expected to toughen up.

2018-07-20 04:46:16 UTC  

Yea

2018-07-20 04:46:38 UTC  

So I think originally yeah it wasn't just expected of men for no reason, but expected of men because others depended on them to be tough

2018-07-20 04:46:50 UTC  

But those lessons get forgotten over time as they're taken for granted

2018-07-20 04:46:55 UTC  

well..who wants to have fee fees talk, am I right bois

2018-07-20 04:46:57 UTC  

Think of it as similar to learning styles. Some people learn sequentially, others by grouping. We teach as if everyone is a sequential learner because it's easier for grouping learners to adapt to sequential teaching styles. We've just been treating emotional recovery the same way, but it's causing issues because the two ways don't have the same way where we can ignore one.

2018-07-20 04:47:32 UTC  

I honestly wish I could be like that sometimes lol

2018-07-20 04:47:36 UTC  

Yeah I think most guys really just don't want to talk about feelings to the same extent as most girls do, but how much of that is nature vs nurture is hard to say

2018-07-20 04:48:10 UTC  

As far as I can remember, Male's are less prone to emotions

2018-07-20 04:48:47 UTC  

Men tend to bottle more, which also means exploding more

2018-07-20 04:48:55 UTC  

I think men might be more prone to emotions

2018-07-20 04:48:56 UTC  

or maybe not more, but more violently

2018-07-20 04:49:10 UTC  

But learn to become numb to them because they can take control

2018-07-20 04:49:12 UTC  

Not prone to less, just expressing it less often in a way interpreted as emotional

2018-07-20 04:49:15 UTC  

Ultimately though, bottling and channeling are an individual response.

2018-07-20 04:49:34 UTC  

It's seems to be almost entirely common amongst men

2018-07-20 04:49:49 UTC  

I've seen very few women like that

2018-07-20 04:50:22 UTC  

When there is the rare guy who doesn't act that way though his school mates will make sure he learns or he won't ever fit in

2018-07-20 04:50:37 UTC  

so it's definitely not purely nature as far as I can tell

2018-07-20 04:50:49 UTC  

Could have to do with men could be dangerous when anger takes control

2018-07-20 04:50:49 UTC  

It's not purely nature, sure

2018-07-20 04:50:58 UTC  

But it seems common even among animals

2018-07-20 04:51:30 UTC  

Personally I started containing my emotions when I once became enraged and lost control of my body

2018-07-20 04:51:37 UTC  

The bulls of most species engage in dueling, fighting, conditioning each other to get strong or get lost

2018-07-20 04:51:45 UTC  

Think of it this way: Who do you expect to meet your emotional needs?

2018-07-20 04:52:48 UTC  

I'd put it this way, women are more empathetic, men are more compassionate

2018-07-20 04:52:54 UTC  

it's because of this difference that men interact with their friends so differently than women. When men make fun of each other they're usually friends. Women seem to have that sort of humor much less often which I've seen lead to some women thinking someone is being mean when they're trying to be friendly

2018-07-20 04:53:05 UTC  

Dude, yeah

2018-07-20 04:53:22 UTC  

It's why I like hanging around with guys more

2018-07-20 04:53:29 UTC  

They very rarely take offense

2018-07-20 04:53:40 UTC  

Now if you were talking to girls

2018-07-20 04:53:48 UTC  

Depends on the kind of girl.

2018-07-20 04:53:54 UTC  

But i think i actually agree with that sentiment

2018-07-20 04:53:57 UTC  

absolutely

2018-07-20 04:54:04 UTC  

sure does

2018-07-20 04:54:04 UTC  

I actually had that problem when i was younger