That and toxic mascalinity

the funny part I find, I grew up in a household that was half Samoan, my stepdad and most of my siblings being Samoan in lineage, that is actually a legitimate patriarchal culture, it's not that bad honestly, just the idea of the man of the house, oldest male sun runs everything and then would joke that only if his wife says so, but despite this you will find a lot of people defend that kind of actual Patriarchy because it's not white people so it's okay.

my mum got a lot of shit from nana because she earned more then my stepdad, she also got a lot of shit from the Samoan side of the family when she kicked me out of home because that kind of thing (abandoning family) goes so much against the culture.

Wow. You should write us an article, or a few paragraphs, on how it works.

I want to hear more about your half-salmon heritage too. XD

not much else to hear other then it sends me into a full on identity crisis every now and then, I am like, really white, but my dad is aboriginal and most of my siblings are Samoan, so I get people yell at me a lot for saying things that I am not allowed to because of my skin colour, good times... but I think that is more a race issue then a men's rights issue, and aside from hearing my Nana complain about it I am not all too familiar with full on traditional Samoan culture, I know it is Patriarchal in nature, but I never was involved as much in that... mostly just all the food and the family and religious stuff from it.

the more this culture war shit goes on the more I realize I had a really abnormal upbringing, I have shown an old family photo around and people get legitimately shocked at it.

sometimes even I feel like I am making all this shit up, lol xD

That is really interesting. Maybe you could tell me about the Patriarchy side more?

it is just legit old school, eldest male is expected to run the family/tribe, Patriarchy in the most basic, unchanged sense of the word... like it's actual definition and not the feminist definition, sure Samoan women can't be leaders or chiefs, they are just expected to fill the women's role.

not much else to it.

I'm guessing they rule the families though?

most people don't really follow the tradition anymore anyway, just angry Nana's that don't approve of women doing anything else then taking care of the family xD

yeah, women do rule the family, hence the joke that men make the rules but only if their wives say they can.

That;s really interesting. Could you put that together into a quote I can use on a future page about Patriarchy Theory?

maybe in the morning remind me, I an kind of plastered right now xD

dad and I have been celebrating selling the land -^u^-

Lol

You seem to be plastered a lot. XD

Sorry, that seems rude

I'm an alcoholic is what I do xD

but together we polished off a bottle of Rosé and now he's in bed and I'm on the rum

Awww, I kinda worry about that. Lol

so does my dad, it's like I have issues or something, I know it's a thing I need to work on in future, but right now while life is still shit it's a bit difficult to just abandon things that make you feel good.

probably not a discussion for debate though xD

Maybe not

Have you ever heard of the film whale Rider? It's kind of about the slow death of a culture just like that.

yeah, I've seen it, good movie

One of my favorites. Amazingly memorable

sadly culture is something that is naturally lost to time, and I feel like globalization has had a hand in speeding up that process.

Yeah. Me too.

There's been some great traditions and cultures lost to it

I think all non-Western culture is slowly being eaten away

Of course, we're getting changed too

That didn't come out right

But our culture is kinda over-riding everyone else's

Then again, we also did away with some reeeeeally nasty stuff

I think a lot of people who scream out "cultural appropriation" do so in an attempt to preserve such cultures, but not sharing culture will do the opposite and make it more likely to die out.

That's possibly true

I think everywhere needs to revitalize the best parts of their traditional culture or we'll see a day when it's all ancient history and you won't be able to tell any culture from any other

Ever seen a modern Bollywood film?