Message from @ɪɴꜰᴏᴍᴀsʜᴇᴅ, ɴᴇᴜᴛʀᴀʟɪᴢᴇs ᴛʜʀᴇᴀᴛ
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He's been sober for almost 9 months, and he probably doesn't get much positive attention; his schedule is: 5am wake up, go to addict meeting, go to work, leave work at 11pm, go to bed do it over every day
When I started working, he was training me and he was really stern and kinda mean/hard, but from day one I've been nice to him and polite (I try to be so with everyone, but sometimes my patience is very thin), and his demeanor and attitude changed. I told him I respect him one night.
Another night he was having a really bad day, and we walked out to the parking lot, I told him to drive safely and he grumbled about it. I told him that I cared about him and his tone changed and he said that *I* should drive safely and that he cared about me.
yesterday night, I was standing in the corner eating my burger and lazy coworker came over and started doing some banter (he's not very good at it though), guy I like walked by and I pointed at lazy coworker and jokingly said "he's bullying me!" and he was just "ARE YOU BULLYING HER, YOU BETTER STOP" in a combination of a joking tone and a tone of "I'll break your fucking bones"
If he's a bit older than you he might be feeling more of a protective instinct toward you.
I realize now that I'm probably the only person who's been nice to him like that in a really long time and that he's rejected me because he's afraid he's going to hurt my feelings
Feels fucking bad, my dudes
Sounds like you are doing somewhat better, good luck in the future.
Keep him around but dont force things
His demeanor at work has changed a lot. When I started, he was really stern and now he seems happier and more eager to work. He smiles more and he gives me a soft smile and winks at me occassionally
I also realized that I sometimes catch him off guard when I ask him stuff, he does that thing where he won't look me in the eye and fiddles with stuff
He obviously likes you alot but just doesnt know how to approach it
whihc is probably why he wont go into a relationship because in general he is just really unsure of things
He's a recovering heroin addict
Thats fantastic
im glad he managed to get off that terrible shit
My point is: he's obviously been absolutely fucking miserable for a long time and just by being nice to him, he's probably feeling a lot better and is more motivated to stay clean
:((
>tfw probably only wholesome influence in his life
Keep that up, and again dont try to force things, let time heal him and help him
That's not sad, that's a good thing
He probably feels great knowing someone cares for him
At this point its better to be completely platonic for a while
help him feel more confident and get up, BUT also be careful because helping someone whos been miserable might make him ignore you for someone else
He started openly flirting with me after I asked him for his number and he was really, uh, smug? pleased? happy? when I asked him for his number
Then he said he's "kind of a dog" and "not looking for a relationship"; after talking to my friend for a while and stewing over it for awhile we've pretty much come to the conclusion that the guy I like is afraid he'll hurt my feelings
Or that he'll hurt me
He's seen me cry during work (sometimes I get upset about shit and weep) and he's been visibly agitated by it
Anyways, I really care about him and it breaks my heart to think that he doesn't really have much to look forward to and doesn't have many positive influences/motivations in his life
:L
If he really doesn't have anything else I can see why he is not confident.
I became a trucker to get away from people and yet I deal with people all day even in my sleep, I'm technically never "off the clock"
It's sad people resort to being filthy surviellenceists rather than actually take their word. Fuck over your employees, you fuck over your customers, they get fucked over, but they only blame the employees.
I should delete that for my own good
"We'll email the planner and get back with you shortly"
12 phone calls and 14 hours later... nothing
I hate it when they want to hold you to the grindstone, but they're not accountable for anything.
Half my jobs and reimbursements don't even show up on my check and I have to fight tooth and nail to get paid correctly
Over the last 20 years, employers have become greedy assholes and the employees have become desperate to survive.
If they want you somewhere they'll get you a plane or a rental car, if you're stranded in the middle of wyoming trying to get home they'll maybe advance the cost of a greyhound bus ticket out of your paycheck
They'll take a 2k mile job away from you when you're almost to the shipper and give you a 600 mile job that picks up in 12 hours
Ugh.
Fuck them man. If i worked the same jobs i do now 20 years ago, I wouldn't have to fucking fight for my money, wouldn't have to worry about dishonest management trying to steal my paycheck, wouldn't have to worry about my employer stealing my tips. Wouldn't have to work my ass off just so that they could press 2 buttons on the dashboard. Wouldn't have to suffer through something they refused to fix for 2 years because they couldn't get thier massively outsourced labor to fix it.