blacks that grow up with all the baggage don't like when they dont join the club, basically

they just work hard and prosper

it's frustrating to me how many people absolutely refuse to acknowledge cultural differences and antisocial behavior as causal to American blacks failing

so I meet my wife in the army

we get married she doesn't like the idea of giving up here more rare irish name

for a decidedly black name that sort of says alot in the army

haha I see

what a strange dynamic

yeah

I didn't know you were in the army btw

still in?

i got out years ago

she's getting out now

oh really? did she go career?

no she's got a lot of injuries

medical discharge in the works

ah

is she younger than you?

in some ways, but no

I'm just trying to figure out the timeline if you've been out for years already

did she enlist older?

she joined years after me

ah ok

I was on my way out when we met

not trying to pry btw just interested in people's stories

no it's cool

Always a bridemaid huh?

?

I was telling her about the screwup that led to me being where I was when we met

how it was supposed to be different

I love that idea

supposed to be

just one of those things.

nothing is anything but how it was always going to be

this is how this huge screwup led to me being here when I was going to be there

and that's when we met

yeah I don't believe in coicidence

and yet we still plan for the future...

thinking we are going to be able to control it somehow

right

I almost quit college and moved across country for a girl